Never talk about the money you make with your friends

Quote from Pekelo:

If you want your friends back (although it is questionable why you would) just tell them you blew up and now you are doing telemarketing from home...



You could always lick envelopes... heard that pays REAL good...
 
Is it possible that you started bragging a little too much? If you were excited about trading and your success and started talking about it a little too much, they could have taken that as bragging.

My advice is to down play your success and never talk about what you do for a living with them. Maybe even act like you've hit a rough patch. Just approach it in a very humble way and they might be more acceptable.
 
Quote from Thunderdog:

How different our friends are. Whenever I discuss my trading performance with my friends, they invite me to dinner and give me their old clothes.

I always like your posts. You've got a great sense of humor.
 
Quote from Thunderdog:

How different our friends are. Whenever I discuss my trading performance with my friends, they invite me to dinner and give me their old clothes.

LOL
 
Quote from longterminator:

people generally suck, and the proportion of people that suck has been steadily increasing in recent years. . .
I need to see this in a chart.
 
Quote from clacy:

Is it possible that you started bragging a little too much? If you were excited about trading and your success and started talking about it a little too much, they could have taken that as bragging.

My advice is to down play your success and never talk about what you do for a living with them. Maybe even act like you've hit a rough patch. Just approach it in a very humble way and they might be more acceptable.


Yes you totally got it. I am always very excited about trading especially with one guy I shared a lot of details on my gains. When we met I had no job and he was a waiter. Now he is still a waiter, but I got a new car, started going out to eat 3-4 times a week, considering moving to a better and bigger place and make in 1 day more than he makes in a week.

But I know this is only part of the equasion. He never respected me as a friend although he never told me. He always looked at me as a spoiled little brat and a loser sitting home jerking off all day long. My dad always supported me, but when I started investing my dad money and totally changed things upside down, well I guess that was the icing on the cake.

Yesterday I called him, I asked his opinion on whatever buy the xbox or the ps3 since gta4 is out, I decided to kinda of disappear for a few weeks, I just asked for his opinion.

He was a total starnger on the phone, I met him later and he gave me back my home spare keys. I guess that I might not make very comfortable people like him. People who have a harsher and different reality then the one I have.

I also told him that for this year I am up 25% on my entire account he is still with his ol mutual fund.

Please forgive my english, I am from Europe
 
Quote from Thunderdog:

How different our friends are. Whenever I discuss my trading performance with my friends, they invite me to dinner and give me their old clothes.

haha
 
Quote from guy990opl:

Three guys I thought were good and close friends do not talk to me anymore all we say now is hi and bye. It is weird we used to spend so much time together and talk everyday when my life was barely ok.

Then 4 years ago I started trading in the market and and things turned out to be much much much better then expected.

At first there was a common feeling of surprise for me and for them. Then after more and more success in addition to the feeling of surprise on their part there was also a feeling of annoyance, maybe even jelousy.

I should have told them just what they wanted to hear.

Dude, you said you are in Europe - so I'm not sure if you get the HBO show "Entourage." If not, rent the DVD set.

If you are going to talk about your success, then you have to be like "Vince" from Entourage. This must be done "to scale" of course.

Your friend is probably waiting for you to treat him to a hooker or something.

Take him to Amsterdam. He'll be your best friend again ...
 
No offense guy, but it was likely your self assured, arrogant attitude... It came off a little in your posts too. Be careful that doesn’t work into your awesome trading.

When you make money it's exciting, you feel great and want to talk about it, no doubt... But most people don't want to hear it. Most don't necessarily wish failure on you, but they will start to feel inadequate about themselves for missing out. Then, god forbid, they’ll jump into trading, not prepare / overextend and fail. Then they'll feel even worse and resent you, for doing something they can’t and forcing them to lose money.

People ask me how I’m doing, regardless of reality + / -, I give them a: “Meh, not too bad.”. Keep it nonchalant, maybe hint and the pessimistic and then move on to something mutual like “Dollar sure is a piece of sh!t, huh?”.

Accomplishes the following:
1.Makes them feel good about themselves and their career.
2.I don’t feel pressured to offer [dangerous] trading advice.
3.We get to keep being friends.
 
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