Quote from tikipoki:
Hmm you really make a good point on responsibility, on which I very much agree with you.
Still, condom leaks, birth control failure, all happens, what then?
Should I only have sex with chicks I want children with, should we pump her full of chemicals 2 weeks later.. well at that time she's fertilized all right. Or take the responsibility and put the shackles on with a 18 y.o. one night stand and my soon to be kid?
Interested in your opinion on that.
Tiki
Tiki,
This is the part where a lot of people have trouble with. Facing the consequences of our actions. If I rape a girl while I'm drunk, can I really use the excuse, hey, I was intoxicated, I had no idea what I was doing, which is probably true btw. The problem is I had the choice to get drunk. When people get drunk they do stupid things. For the most part, once you are intoxicated, all bets are off. Most people cannot think and reason when they are seriously intoxicated all though we all swear we can. Most people think they are OK to drive, most people think they can still determine right from wrong. But we all know this is not true. The point is, everyone should understand that one of the consequences to getting drunk is the possibility that we might do something that under ordinary circumstances we would never do. This is why we have drinking laws in this country. Because most kids under 18 don't have the responsibility to make these kinds of decisions even though they swear they can too. LOL.
When you decide to have sexual relations with another woman or man, you have to understand that there could be consequences to that. For some, it could be AIDS. AIDS doesn't care whether you are pro choice or pro life, it doesn't care if you are a republican or a democrat, there is no appeal. AIDS is not a personal rights issue. It's basically a death sentence.
On top of AIDS there are thousands of other STD's. And then there is pregnancy. Yes condoms break, and yes, sometimes we are intoxicated and we end up spending the night with a girl that we would never even want to talk to again. Shit happens right?
The question is, at what point is it your fault? I mean where do we draw the line? I mean why is it fair for you to be able to use the excuse the condom broke and I can't use the excuse that I was too drunk last night and that's why I couldn't hear the girl yelling stop. Aren't both excuses valid. I mean, I really was drunk, and I sincerely could not hear. In fact when I woke up the next day, I couldn't even remember what happened last night.
Yet, I'm going to go to jail and you get to get off scott free and why? Oh yeah, you had a better excuse. See that just doesn't fly with me. Because then our entire legal system and our system of laws in this country could be based on excuses. How could we ever arrest anybody, I mean if the guy has a good excuse, what are you going to do right?
We are a very spoiled society. Every day I see people f*ck up their lives and expect somebody else to clean up the mess and it's always the same old song and dance, I didn't know, nobody told me, I didn't think that was going to happen, I had no idea, that was the first time this has happened to me, blah, blah, blah. It gets really old after awhile.
I guess at the end of the day, after all the bickering is over about when a fetus actually has life and when it doesn't, I guess it all comes down to this. Can you look at yourself in the mirror? Can you live with yourself? Can you sleep at night? Guilt is often the most harsh consequence of all of them.
It's funny, I've talked to a lot of girls who have had abortions years ago, and at the time they said it wasn't that hard to do because they were living in the moment. Years later though they would often find that whenever they saw a baby, they couldn't even look at it without feeling guilty, they would often go into deep periods of depression. And many of them would never be able to be happy for the rest of their lives because of the guilt. Even if they ended having children later in life they would hate them, because of the anger and resentment inside of them. It's very hard for them to live a happy healthy life. Of course Planned Parenthood will never tell them this. This they learn on their own.
So I guess in the end, the real burden of pregnancy can never truly be gotten rid of, even by a pill or an operation. The guilt is yours to keep forever. It's your own very special reminder of the biggest decision you ever made in your life.
