The loneliness of success

Put a 12"x10" mirror on your trading desk so you can brag to nobody but yourself.

In otherwards, be a man....... keep your mouth shut about your success. No need to gloat to other ppl is there?
 
Smart Money,

Congrats on the edge. Isn't it nice to have that? It seems that you can cope with fellow traders and these forums much easier now.

You know what you know and no one can take that away from you.

Thats all I wanted to say...congrats and you give other traders hope.

One word of warning...I once had an edge and am building another one now. Always research and diversify as you never know when you will be on the hunt again..☺

ES

P.S. I regret if I have missed the point of your post, but I do not have any advice about your personal life. I do not have any friends except Wifey and my animals. My dog is always happy to see me and never talks bad about me behind my back. He does not lie to me.


Quote from Smart Money:

Hey guys.

I have an edge. Put away your argument about whether there is such a thing as an edge or not...but my point is that I'm now consistently making money in the markets. Decent money, and while it is not as much as I thought I'd make when I first started trading, it's still enough to make the kind of wealth I'd like to have. Right?

Well here's what sucks about it. Its the lonliness of it. Don't call the suicide hotline on my behalf because it's not that bad, but it still sucks. I have a friend that I trade with who I collaborate with. I also have my wife to talk to. But in general, it sucks not being able to talk about it. I don't feel like I can tell my friends or they will have their hands out, or they'll think I'm bragging.

How do some of you successful traders cope with the fact that you can't really talk about any cool moves you made in the market, or boneheaded mistakes, or your progress, etc. Yeah...we have E.T., and I'm damn thankful for that, but I'm talking about outloud. Does it bug you not being able to talk about what you do compared to your friends who have a day job who talk about their day at work? Man, I'm busting with pride at what I'm doing and where I'm going, but I feel I have to keep a secret.

Anyone care to share?

SM
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Quote from Smart Money:

Hey guys.

I have an edge. Put away your argument about whether there is such a thing as an edge or not...but my point is that I'm now consistently making money in the markets. Decent money, and while it is not as much as I thought I'd make when I first started trading, it's still enough to make the kind of wealth I'd like to have. Right?

Well here's what sucks about it. Its the lonliness of it. Don't call the suicide hotline on my behalf because it's not that bad, but it still sucks. I have a friend that I trade with who I collaborate with. I also have my wife to talk to. But in general, it sucks not being able to talk about it. I don't feel like I can tell my friends or they will have their hands out, or they'll think I'm bragging.

How do some of you successful traders cope with the fact that you can't really talk about any cool moves you made in the market, or boneheaded mistakes, or your progress, etc. Yeah...we have E.T., and I'm damn thankful for that, but I'm talking about outloud. Does it bug you not being able to talk about what you do compared to your friends who have a day job who talk about their day at work? Man, I'm busting with pride at what I'm doing and where I'm going, but I feel I have to keep a secret.

Anyone care to share?

SM
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Use the money to travel, or get a "normal" career. Do not talk about it or you will generate envy. Enjoy the money with family and friends and be done with it.
 
Perhaps someone can share a horror story related to friends/relatives knowing about successful trading. Imho, that'd be the best "cure" for this urge. I remember reading a thread on ET about why one should never lend money to family, after success in the markets, for they'd blow it all and come back asking for more.
 
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That's what I've done the past 10 years as I did better each year with trading. Sounds like the OP may be a bit insecure if he's so bothered about not being able to talk about his success. Personally there are a lot more important things going on in the world that "me" talk. To the OP -- go work/volunteer in a high poverty school. And consider donating some of your profits to the school; or buy them books for their library.
 
Quote from Smart Money:

The distinction is that I can't talk about what i'm doing and its killing me. I have plenty of friends, but I just can't discuss what I'm most interested in with them. In that aspect, I'm lonely. No guilt over the success (yet) either. :)
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Why the need to talk about it. Do you think accountants come home and talk accounting to their friends? Engineers talking about their great engineering projects? Doctors coming home and talking about the patients they saw today? Dentists talk about the fillings he did today? And so on .....

If you absolutely need to talk find some traders like Red_Ink posted -- they're out there.
 
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How do some of you successful traders cope with the fact that you can't really talk about any cool moves you made in the market, or boneheaded mistakes, or your progress, etc. SM
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So far 8 pages of responses...wow
I never thought that ET had so many successful traders!
 
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