About a year ago, I recorded a few thoughts and ideas on the topic of joy. And since they pretty much go along with the above post, I will paste them here as a backup location where I can find them (if I wish) at any point in the future...
THE SECRET TO JOY AND CONTENTMENT
No matter where we go, society bombards us with the message that more stuff equals greater happiness. Yet, in looking at the lives of those fortunate enough to have met with “success” in the form of fame and fortune, one has no difficulty identifying wealthy individuals who find it necessary to turn to drugs and alcohol for solace, despite all of their material gain.
Even more tragic, there are those cases in which people who "had everything" went so far as to end their own lives, committing suicide even though they were living lives of grandeur. So, if money isn't the panacea to solve all our problems, where are we to turn for answers? It seems that the more people have, the more they want, and no matter how much one acquires, it's never enough. So then, what is the secret to joy and contentment?
In fact, the foundational principles to attaining happiness are not really a secret at all. But, as is typically the case when it comes to the truth, most people don't want to hear it, and if unable to avoid it, they’ll usually refuse to accept it when presented to them. Nonetheless, the first ingredient to happiness is an intimate, personal relationship with Almighty God.
Paraphrasing the 3rd chapter from the book of Philippians…
A lot of people are simply interested in appearances. But, to find true happiness, I had to recognize that such things mean nothing – even if I can list what others might think of as impressive. The very credentials our culture waves around as something special, I had to tear up and throw out with the trash (figuratively speaking) along with everything else I used to take credit for.
All the things I once thought were so important are gone from my life. Compared to the privilege of knowing Jesus Christ firsthand, everything I once thought I had going for me became insignificant – so much cow manure. I've dumped it all in the trash so I could embrace Christ and be embraced by him. I gave up that inferior stuff in order to know and partner with Christ personally.
I'm not saying that I have it all together or that I have it made in the shade. But I’m on my way, laying hold of that for which Christ laid hold of me. Friends, don't get me wrong: By no means do I count myself an expert in all of this. But, I've got my eye on the goal, where God is leading me – to Jesus Christ. I'm off and running and I'm not turning back.
I want everything God has for me. Now that I’m on the right track, I’m staying on it. It’s true, there are a lot of people out there taking other paths, choosing other goals, and trying to get me to go along with them. But, all they want is easy street. They hate God. But easy street is a dead-end street. Those who live there make their bellies their gods, belches are their praise, and all they can think of is their appetites. No, I’m sorry, but there's far more to life for me.
Again, the first ingredient to happiness is an intimate, personal relationship with God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit, not to mention the recognition of one’s utter dependence on God, as well as the fact that everything we have and everything we are ultimately came from Him.
Moreover, living with a conscious awareness of God's presence in one's life, a sort of "walking in the Spirit," keeps you ”plugged in” to the power source that provides you with the strength for every issue of life
So really, faith, humility, submission, dependence, and unselfishness – all in the context of a personal relationship with Almighty God – are the key ingredients that go toward making a contented life. They create a sense of belonging, of identity, of purpose, of direction, and of fulfillment that make it possible for one to be satisfied with very little else. And once you learn to be satisfied with very little, being happy just isn't all that difficult.
Moreover, being in partnership with God in righteousness also makes it possible to experience another quality that is absolutely necessary in order to attain true happiness: an awareness of and absolute confidence in the fact that God, who has sovereign control over everything, is intimately familiar with your circumstances, and knows each individual issue in your life – in so far as He is in charge of every single contingency in existence in the universe – is working all of it together to fulfill His purpose for you.
Knowing that this is true, beyond any shadow of a doubt, makes it possible for one to live independently from his or her circumstances, with one's current situation becoming immaterial with respect to one's happiness because you know that ultimately God is working it all out for your good. You can be indifferent to the circumstances around you because you trust God to take care of it.
So, whatever it is that God has called us to endure and with whatever provisions He has made for us, and especially for those of us to whom He has given much, the challenge is to be content and to be willing to divest ourselves of that for the benefit of others, for the joy and privilege of seeing God bless them through us.
So then, the final ingredient to happiness is being utterly preoccupied with the well-being of others, to follow Christ's example in being a servant, losing ourselves in love for others and being more concerned about their blessings and ours. In the words of John McArthur…
So, beloved, contentment is an elusive thing in this society because this society wants to make you a victim. This society wants to emphasize and glorify your personal rights. This society wants to personalize and privatize and individualize your spirituality and your Christianity so that its everything you think it ought to be. This society wants to turn Jesus into the genie, you rub the bottle, he jumps out and gives you what you want. This society through advertising wants to dissatisfy you with absolutely everything.
I admit there are troubles and issues in life, and there are struggles in life, but so many of them stem from the selfishness that this sinful approach breeds. When you bring...introduce your selfishness into your marriage, it will mess it up. You introduce it into your family, it will mess it up. It will mess up the church. It will mess up any relationship. It will mess you up if you're driven by self- satisfaction. That's a terrible thing. That's a tragic thing.
And when you tell people that Jesus...they should receive Jesus because He will produce self-fulfillment and self-satisfaction, you have put them on a road to disaster. Some of them may actually come to know the Lord Jesus Christ and then spend most of their Christian experience wondering why it didn't work out the way you were promised it would.
If you're going to be selfish, if you're going to be a victim, if you're going to take every wound personally, if every time somebody says something that offends you, or something you didn't like, you're going to strike out, then you will destroy all relationships. You will destroy your own life.
But if you will recognize that your circumstances are by the providence of God what He intended for you and that you should be satisfied with little and utterly detached from your circumstances in terms of their ability to change your contentment, then you will learn to be content. And wouldn't it be wonderful if we were all so contented because it would turn to great praise for God.
It may seem strange to say that unselfishness breeds happiness, but there is a biblical principle that says you will reap what you sow. We say, "What comes around goes around." But it means roughly the same thing. You get what you put out. If you want friends, you need to be a friend. And so it goes...
"Whom have I in heaven but Thee and there is none on earth beside Thee, my heart and my flesh fail but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever." To have God was to have everything and He needed nothing. He had learned that the chief end of man was to glorify God and the chief joy of man was to love the Lord his God with all his heart, soul, mind and strength. And, listen, the love that he had for God in that relationship was enough...it was enough.