emotions run everything,she has some reason for being a dog rather than a master,hence looking for a master,probably afraid to stop being that way,because of fear of everything else,thats a life she feels comfortable with,even though the comfort is just mastery of a dogs life,get her a dog
Psychopath "Tells"
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what I'm seeing is in line with the idea that about 3% males and 1% females are psychopaths... I'm seeing bullying mostly, but i'm watching one that never bullies, she's a small time con artist, it's like a hobby with her. She plays the victim card and gets people to drive her places for shopping, meds, etc.. and before she's through they pay for stuff or give her cash. It doesn't always succeed but she seems to approach it like a door to door sales person wherein a certain percentage of people are going to buy and the game is just to hit as many doors as possible...
I'm starting to think that maybe most or all the different myers briggs types can be psychopaths. That would cause it to take a lot of different forms, some more dangerous than others.
If you make a matrix of the sixteen personality types cross referenced with all the ways that stages of childhood development can have a good or bad outcome it makes for a way to pigeonhole people with a very good amount of accuracy. The thing about Myers Briggs is that you only have to answer four questions and you have the type sorted out. A "list of questions" approach might work with the stages of childhood development maybe..
The word "psychopath" has too many connotations that don't necessarily have to be true in all cases. I know one woman that I know quite well actually, she's horribly annoying and narcissistic and admits to having very, very little empathy for anyone or anything.. but she's a Bible reader and after all is said and done, she's not that badly motivated.. It hadn't hit me until just this moment but she actually fits all the basics for psychopath but she's not even a criminal...
we cut a deal wherein our relationship, no matter what form it takes, has to be about helping each other to become the best versions of our true selves.. that rules out the "trying to change somebody" mess, it's a waste largely and based on the idea that other people should be like us. Other people are not at all like us typically!! It's very hard to get that but the Myers Briggs study leads to a very good understanding of just how incredibly different people are from "us"
She really does need a master. I framed it to her that her personality type is wonderful but very lacking in the coping skills department and I, while far from wonderful much of the time, am very long in the coping skills department.. we try to complement each other and it works out ok...
introvert vs extrovert [they are so far different it is unreal][extroverts renew their energy by being with people, introverts renew their energy via their thoughts when they are alone][introverts are all about their "territory"]
intuitive vs sensing [how information is taken in]
feeling vs thinking [how information is interpreted]
judging or not [judging people can't stand open ended things, they need closure. Judging people are very mindful of rules both internal and external] [non judging people just like to go from A to B without ruffling too many feathers]
There are only four questions but they are not real easy to answer. Most people can't tell me what they are like. I'm working up "tells" to help answer the questions but if I spend some time with someone I can suss it out eventually]
the center of each of our universes is health,food,water ,warmth,shelter. Every animal on the planet knows this. We are the only ones who screw it up. Love or companionship is a nice luxury but it is not an essential. On the other hand lack there of or abuse in it's place causes life lasting havoc. Unfortunately whatever we learn from 0-18 yrs of age,is believed by most of us to be mandatory behavior. For some what we learned is adequate ,even above average knowledge to prevail without changing what we believe is mandatory. For most I would guess,using the way the world runs askew as an information base,the knowledge aquired from 0-18 is inadequate and a recipe for disaster. What's necessary is to change yourself,your basic belief system is worldwide,percentage wise,likely to be inadequate. Accepting that fact,you can assume that you ,your neighbor,your friends,enemies, and no one has all the I's dotted and T's crossed,at this point it's logical to assume that it is pointless to judge anyone.Since you are not judging,you should also not accept as fact another's ideals over yours,like a buffet some of it will appeal to your taste buds ,the rest leave for someone else...with that,don'[t accept myers brigs, maybe just a small salad off his buffet..don't define yourself or your friend,you are liable to accept as mandatory behavior something that is actually a bad replacement for the belief you threw out...continue tossing out false beliefs and be weary to not adopt any new ones...life is not 4 questions,that sounds like the canned solution...for starters ..in her or anyones case,throw out everything that doesn't pertain the basics in the beginning of this load of wind..if it doesn't serve any of those needs ,don't partake in it..nope ,doesn't work for me,but thanks..don't judge yourself or others because you don't have enough info to come to a truthful conclusion...just avoid those that don't help you fill your basic needs...enough for nowQuote from maxpi:
we cut a deal wherein our relationship, no matter what form it takes, has to be about helping each other to become the best versions of our true selves.. that rules out the "trying to change somebody" mess, it's a waste largely and based on the idea that other people should be like us. Other people are not at all like us typically!! It's very hard to get that but the Myers Briggs study leads to a very good understanding of just how incredibly different people are from "us"
She really does need a master. I framed it to her that her personality type is wonderful but very lacking in the coping skills department and I, while far from wonderful much of the time, am very long in the coping skills department.. we try to complement each other and it works out ok...
You can't avoid problems or opportunities, so you have to concentrate on how you deal with them. Quite often you can't know what is the right thing to do, so concentrate on doing what you think is right, and in the long run you'll get what you deserve for what you did. If you see that what life / God / universe gives you is not what makes you happy, it's very likely that you don't do what is right.
Don't blame others for what happens to you! It's useless.
Don't blame others for what happens to you! It's useless.
Maxpi,
I found the Enneagram even more insightful than Myers-Briggs. I'm an ENFP, btw.
http://www.amazon.ca/Wisdom-Enneagram-Psychological-Spiritual-Personality/dp/0553378201