Quote from Brass:
See, Tsing, the Cap'n has gone feral.
Obama needed to calm the waters by distinguishing between the freedom of speech and the freedom of religion. The Middle East doesn't quite share those freedoms and they don't necessarily like it being shoved down their throat in their own home. The Internet brings it to their door. When you want to enact change, you have a better chance of doing it with baby steps than with one fell swoop. Maturity and emotional intelligence dictate that you empathize with the person with whom you are trying to negotiate a beneficial solution. If you don't see it from his side, he sure won't make the effort to see it from yours. So who will be the better man and take the first step? Oh, look. It was Obama. Not Romney, who was ready to get into their faces.
As for not seeing a single person in any position of authority echoing this fine woman's words, remember that real change happens at the grass roots. The West must keep cultivating those grass roots.