My covid, parent dying, and getting back into trading (eventually).

[nooby_mcnoob]

To give some real advice for the particular situation based on my experience with loss.

You need to let time pass before you change anything major. You will have to recover from the COVID and the pending loss of your father. Even though you are prepared, it will still be difficult.

The point is that you need to process the new state, and once you are bored of processing it, you will naturally begin to seek out new things.

 

[ET180]

Spend the time you have with your dad. There will always be more trades in the future. Short term, listening music that you enjoyed during a favorable part of your earlier life may help. Exercise, diet, sleep also important. Long term, find fulfillment, do something that you find fulfilling. Jordan Peterson has some good advice on that subject. Right now, forget trading, be there for your dad and do whatever you can to make him comfortable.

 

[Overnight]

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I know everyone handles these things differently, but I'm seriously thinking of just taking the rest of the year off. I can't help but think of the holiday season and how much it's going to suck without dad. But I'm also wondering how long it will be before I say "Screw it. I want to trade."...

The markets will always be here, but your dad, and your need to deal with the emotions as quickly as possible, will not. You gave the best advice to yourself. Take the rest of the year off (or as much time you need) to get over what will be an emotional bombshell in your life.

Distracting yourself with trading after your dad passes will not help you heal the wound that will form. Suture the wound first before diving back in. Trading should be a passion, not a healing salve. That would be like diving into drink to deal with the loss. At least with drink you lose the cost of the bottle. With trading you can lose a lot more.

 

[jnbadger]

Sorry to hear about the troubles.
If you've been vaccinated and still not recovering well, I'd recommend avoiding more boosters and Paxlovid. Doctors have had good success with early treatment using a mix of other pills/vitamins. These pills have been used for decades. Our government leaders/agencies have needlessly killed many people IMO but I don't want to debate it as it's too controversial.
Here's an article with the early treatments being used with good success.
https://www.thedesertreview.com/new...cle_7728815e-3ca2-11eb-8a08-7b4b0156c181.html

Here's a thread where I've posted more about the vaccines. Some will strongly disagree and you may as well but if health is important, try getting opinions from doctors/physicians/virologists NOT working for a government agency.
https://www.elitetrader.com/et/threads/sorry-another-covid-thread.361537/page-16

I agree with you. I actually tested positive about 3 weeks after getting the 1st booster. I will NOT be getting the next one. My sister is a nurse I know she agrees with you as well.

 

[jnbadger]

Sorry to hear about you and your family's Corona Virus problems. There are a lot of lies and disinformation out there on the vaccines and the efficacy of it. Remember, Fauci and big Pharma were boasting 95% effectivity for Moderna and 94% for Pfizer. Remember that? Now, it is in the 40% and dropping. Also, told not to wear masks by Fauci only, to reverse and said he lied? Now, they promote boosters and multiple boosters (again efficacy for boosters is dropping), even for children as young as 5 years of age? It is your life and if you feel you have to take all these vaccine shots, go right ahead. I have friends and relatives who are fully boosted but, has suffered Corona Virus multiple times. It is your life and that of your loved ones to choose what works for you. Now, what do we know about Corona Virus? From Israeli doctors, our bodies immune system is 13 times more effective against Corona Virus than any vaccine. Ivermectin, despite, the numerous lies has been proved effective in treating Corona Virus. However, its widespread use is still being suppressed in the US. From numerous doctors, their finding that Corona Virus hits people with vitamin D3 deficiency. They recommend zinc gluconate, vitamin C and Vitamin D3 to enhance your body's natural immune system. Get a pulse oximeter too, advice from a doctor. A reading of 95-100 is normal. If it drops to 80 or lower, you may have Corona Virus because oxygen in your body is so low. Oh, if you get a low reading, get multiple readings to make sure.

I agree with everything you said. A friend stopped over yesterday and he swears by ivermectin. My dad also always has a couple P/Os lying around and I check my pulse and O2 levels on a regular basis. My O2 is always 98 or 99, but my pulse is all over the place. Sometimes 75, sometimes 110. I've always been in pretty good shape, and my resting heart rate was rarely above 70 before this damn virus.

 

[Overnight]

...but my pulse is all over the place. Sometimes 75, sometimes 110. I've always been in pretty good shape, and my resting heart rate was rarely above 70 before this damn virus.

That's called getting old, plus mental stress of a family member dying and you worrying about COVID.

 

[jnbadger]

That's called getting old, plus mental stress of a family member dying and you worrying about COVID.

Yeah, I'm either numb or crying while always being tired. It's like my body is telling me I'm extremely stressed, but the sadness is winning the emotional battle.

And I definitely agree with you about alcohol. I actually quit some time ago. Years ago I would have dove right into a bottle. But I'm experiencing these emotions sober and for real. And I'm glad I am, no matter how much they suck.

 

[smallfil]

Yeah, I'm either numb or crying while always being tired. It's like my body is telling me I'm extremely stressed, but the sadness is winning the emotional battle.

And I definitely agree with you about alcohol. I actually quit some time ago. Years ago I would have dove right into a bottle. But I'm experiencing these emotions sober and for real. And I'm glad I am, no matter how much they suck.

Sadness and problems comes to us when we least expect it. I lost a friend about a month ago, my aunt and a cousin just a few days ago. It does get better despite, the sad times. We just have to go on. Life has to go on.

 

[jnbadger]

Great perspectives all around. The most popular seems to run parallel with my instincts, which is to just wait until I'm ready, and I'll know when that is.

Moving is not an option. I actually live in the house where I grew up. I'm 55 and my parents moved here when I was 1 month old. There are 80 acres and we're on one of the highest spots in the county, so the views are amazing. Too many memories. But even if there were no memories, I love the seclusion the country side brings. If the A/C wasn't running right now, all I'd be able to hear are birds chirping and cows mooing. (And my typing. Lol.)

It's 68 degrees outside, so I just went downstairs to turn off the A/C and opened my windows, so I'll also hear coyotes out in the pasture in a couple of hours.

I also agree about the exercise. I love working out and I can't wait to have the energy to jump rope and do push ups again. I walked up to my jump rope yesterday in my work out clothes and said, "there's no f...ing way". I'll get there. I just need to rest along the way. My doctor told me that I need to get lots of rest even after I'm feeling better. He was right.

I've already responded to both vaccine posts, and I agree with both.

Thank you Rams Fan for the kind words. And to all of those who said I need to concentrate on spending time with my dad while I can, I couldn't agree more. He's been bed ridden since Friday, and he's rarely awake. Sometimes we'll take turns just sitting next to his bed and watching him sleep. When he's awake, we'll have very abbreviated conversations with him. When he does wake up, it's usually because he's in pain and he's asking for meds. But just being there at his side even when he's sleeping just feels like the right thing to do.

 

[jnbadger]

Sadness and problems comes to us when we least expect it. I lost a friend about a month ago, my aunt and a cousin just a few days ago. It does get better despite, the sad times. We just have to go on. Life has to go on.

Oh man, I'm sorry about your losses. I lost a friend on Monday due to a fall. We weren't very close, but we recently talked on the phone about getting together soon. I also have a close friend who's been battling cancer for years. He's been through many procedures, and in the last week or so he started posting things on FB from his hospital bed about how his drum will soon no longer be beating. He's one of those super nice guys who has about 4000 FB friends and everybody loves him. That's another one that's going to suck.

It's all just so damn overwhelming at times.