Get attached

[Optionpro007]

Quote from Cheese:

The majority of divorces are initiated by women not men.

That's because they don't have the balls...

 

[Larson]

Quote from Cheese:

Love is a word and a meaning that is part civilisation. The facts are different.

The facts are that we are animals with the inbuilt and important characteristics of imprinting and bonding capabilities. Imprinting is the attachment of the offspring to its parents. In humans we call this family love. Bonding is the sexual affiliation that develops between opposite genders and is required for procreation and survival of the species. In humans we call this romantic love.

So in fact all that you have, are animal functions which doesn't lessen their importance buts thats all there is to it. So get with the facts: love is only an idealisation, both everyday ordinary as well as being among the concepts of civilisation.

So when a man becomes attracted and attached to a woman it may be for her that the bonding does not even start or that if the bonding is there for her it ends when the utility of the attachment, for her, reaches its 'sell by date'. The majority of divorces are initiated by women not men.

That is because men, especially if they have been successful, have more to lose. Now, if you are smart you work her like a Babylonian slave and she will be to worn out to plot your demise.

 

[nitro]

Ok. You guys win.

 

[Maverick74]

Quote from nitro:

Ok. You guys win.

Nitro, traders are a cynical bunch. You know that. Why not approach the situation as a trader. You were married once before. So what do you think makes this trade different then the last trade? Every trader has a bias once they are in a position. The people responding on this thread are not in your trade so they are giving you an objective viewpoint.

 

[jinxu]

I heard that the first 1-2 years of marriage will be good, but then 3-5 years in the woman start to change. Is this true???

 

[nitro]

Quote from Maverick74:

Nitro, these quotes are for you. From one of my favorite movies. You can guess if you want.

"You will notice that what we are aiming at when we fall in love is a very strange paradox. The paradox consists of the fact that, when we fall in love, we are seeking to re-find all or some of the people to whom we were attached as children. On the other hand, we ask our beloved to correct all of the wrongs that these early parents or siblings inflicted upon us. So that love contains in it the contradiction: The attempt to return to the past and the attempt to undo the past."

"Crimes and Misdemeanors", good movie. I don't agree, but while I am frank, I don't want to go into it. Talking generalities on an anonymous board is one thing, going into it deeper gets too personal.

"We're all faced throughout our lives with agonizing decisions, moral choices. Some are on a grand scale, most of these choices are on lesser points. But we define ourselves by the choices we have made. We are, in fact, the sum total of our choices. Events unfold so unpredictably, so unfairly, Human happiness does not seem to be included in the design of creation. it is only we, with our capacity to love that give meaning to the indifferent universe. And yet, most human beings seem to have the ability to keep trying and even try to find joy from simple things, like their family, their work, and from the hope that future generations might understand more. "

Of course this is true, but it leaves out so much. We aren't just the sum of our experiences, but the context of our experiences. I would love to run the following experiment. I would love to see what remains invariant (if anything) about me if you put me in say, 2000 BC, 0 AD, 1100 AD, present time, and 500 years from now. Some people believe in reincarnation and that this is exactly what happens.

How would I be different if I were 6" taller? 6" shorter? Had more hair? Was obese? What if I were a black man, or what if I were born in Ethiopia and was striving to survive against hunger? What remains invariant in all these people? Love. Does it make it better for all of you if I quote it instead? Here. "Love".

 

[nitro]

Quote from BSAM:

...Love causes respect, which may appear to others to be passive and weak.

Spoken like a man ready to fall in love again!

I hope the Steelers kick the Jets in the ass this weekend. (Oops, couldn't help it.)

Then I hope it is Bears vs Steelers. Black and blue bruising football.

 

[Arthur Deco]

Quote from jinxu:

I heard that the first 1-2 years of marriage will be good, but then 3-5 years in the woman start to change. Is this true???

As they they stand at the altar, the woman is hoping the man will change, and the man is hoping the woman won't.

 

[ammo]

check out the mother in law, there's a glimpse into the future,they will hold back til the ring is on the finger,after that...well you better have looked into it

 

[Ghost of Cutten]

My problem is the opposite - I don't want to get attached, but they do.

Also Nitro, have you thought that maybe love relationships are not fully explicable by reason and logic? There is a reason that Casanova was not an engineer.