Hello sstheo,
Why do you move the stop once you set it? Also why do you cherry-pick trades and stops?
Since you are aiming at small tick profits in relation to bigger stop loss distance, this means high probability of price reaching your profit target is more likely. It could help ease your mind if you just let leave the profit target and stop loss alone, and let either one be hit. If you are using a price action stop loss, you should be fine leaving it alone.
In addition, I favor leaving your stop loss and profit target alone because this will let your measure the outcome of this trade management much easier. If you measure XXX trades where you leave the stop loss alone, this may give you good expectancy.
However, if your rules says move the stop loss before profit target is hit when you XYZ happens, then you should not have any problems, you are doing the right thing.
I remember I had a similar problem similar like yours. The fix was to leave my stop loss alone and not touch it until my profit target was reached or unless I was trailing (i.e., if price does this at this location or does this, then I move my stop objectively,etc.) a winning trade per my rules. Once I did this all the stress (shoulda coulda woulda, etc.) instantly went away because now I only focus on chart read, entry, target and stop. Afterwards, "I" am removed from the equation. Set my alarms and walk away. Much easier for recording data at the end of the day as well.
I know the standard trading tip is "Cut your losses quickly". But for me, I am not smart enough to understand what it means by "Cut your losses quickly". What in the world those this technically and logically mean. What does quickly mean? How quickly? So I initially set my stop loss, and if it get hit, it get hit.
Hope this helps