You have the same problem i had when i started out. (This just requires the correct amount of coaching).
Many years back i had a joint account with an Israeli friend and he would say things that i just couldn't wrap my head around and to this day they make my head spin when i think back. The timing of his suggestions was right on, it was the emotions that kept me from acting on his logic.
You still on touch with this friend?
Can i meet him?
I'm also Israeli.