I believe you are very wrong on this. The military -- all the way back to WW2 -- had a very strong culture against hitting or abusing your wife or girlfriend.
Officially yes, I agree, at least visible marks were not tolerated much however there was a strong culture of silence. The military was not much more advanced than the larger culture.
CaptainObvious seems to want a bizarre mix of conditions is all. The attributes he ascribes to the 'left' seem disconnected with any reality.
Off base families will be as bad as anywhere, worse with PTSD etc.
https://www.domesticshelters.org/do...on/the-facts-about-abuse-in-military-families