Quote from traderNik:
Something tells me that your point didn't occur to our young friend. Ah well, once he hits his twenties, he may find the self-confidence he's lacking.
To be perfectly honest, physical appearance often causes this type of thing in young men. Conglobate acne is often the problem.
There's one other potential physical problem as well... one that can cause deep resentment.
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I had acne in my teens and I remember having terribly low self esteem. I hated looking at myself. But the self esteem problems didn't come from that alone. I also had (have) a sister that let out all her rage on me, I also had a neglected mother with a divorce that ignored me, and I had to move to a new town where I had no friends and quite a few people who were mean to me.
So in short in my life, for years, I had 0 positive reinforcements and that took its toll. I tried most of the time not reciprocating those feeling on others to make myself feel superior, but I can't say the same for others. I even found "cool" people in relationships putting me down to make themselves feel better.
The point is, don't blame these "weak, insecure" people, man or woman on them. During our teens, it is virtually impossible to escape the circle of negative reinforcement and the majority of us take years to grow our self esteem back. Some never and it leads to fucked up lifes.
Some (like you presumably) were lucky to have a cool hobby or good safe environment to grow as a person and gain some self-confidence. Realize how lucky you were, life as a teen is a crapshoot.
The problem I find is that we should stop the circle of pain. Like karol88 said that she was bitchy and moody to several people she saw as weak and insecure. And I also believe she said she would be mean to a guy who's misogynistic.
Well that right there is the problem. Don't act on your impulse and feel the need yourself to assert your superiority by being mean to that person, that's high school behaviour. Instead, since you probably don't feel any attraction to that person, break up with them and try to understand their point of view and how they came to be. Also try to expose their problems so they can fix them, or help them as friends.
How many people once they break up with someone refuse to say anything the person did bad because "they don't want to hurt them". This is bullshit of course, it's really about not feeling any guilt. That again is animal, high school behavior. Take the higher road and help the person you were previously attracted to to break from their cycle and get better. They will in turn help someone else etc and we'll have a more healthy society.
but then its all up to you...if you had to wrestle her into submission she knew you were weaker. if you asked the 2 guys I mentioned earlier (the ones I was bitchy to) if they dominated the relationship, they would probably say "yes" and that I was just a bitch...well, I would act and feel totally different towards other guys...it really depends if they had enough healthy confidence and how they treated me...you can turn a cunt into a kitten, just gotta know how