Alanrof,
If you have a 25 year history of making money in good markets and bad, why would you want to change anything? Why not just stay with what has made you succesful? I can tell you that none of these gurus has that kind of record. Most are products of the bubble market and reading a couple of books on technical analysis and suddenly they are experts.
If you are determined to daytrade, go to Borders and collect several books and read them. Most are bs but you will learn a bit about order routing and Lev II. Then go to all the gurus sites and read all the free stuff. There is a lot. I recommend Ken Wolfe's site,
www.mtrader.com I believe, for educational material. Iknow some people here do not like him or find his room calls a bit tough to follow, but I think his methods are a good foundation for daytrading. Go to
www.daytradingstocks.com and absorb the material linked there.
Next set aside a small amount of money, say $30 or 40k and open an account at a RealTick broker. You will need a broadband internet connection and a multimonitor setup. Many of us have two or more computers running 5 or 6 monitors or more, watching all major markets in addition to the stocks exchanges, such as the stock index futures, the bonds, the energy futures and the currencies, plus news services. Others are successful with much more basic setups. Start out trading 100 shares, using one basic strategy or pattern until you have mastered it and are consistently profitable.
Finally, a word of advice. Times of personal stress are good times to avoid the markets. Many of us carry scars from trading when we were under personal stress of one form or another. From what you have said, you are definitely under stress with your father, understandably so. My advice would be to avoid trading until that situation is back to normal. Good luck to both of you.