Obviously it's very complex. The best solution is don't have a baby if you can't afford it, but clearly this doesn't solve the current problem.Thank you, NoahA, for a thoughtful comment and your views on what ought to be the respective role of the individual and the government. In your remarks I find much to agree with, but also a few places where I might disagree. I don't have time right now to respond in detail, but I would just say we should consider not only what seems perhaps like a lack of justification, inequity, or failure of some government policy, but also consider what the consequences would be of not doing what the government is doing. For example, if you don't think it is right for government to help poor mothers who made bad decisions when they got pregnant, consider what would be the consequences if the government did not help them? Answering that question may change your mind, or lead to suggesting a better alternative policy than doing nothing. Most of these thorny issues have nuances that may not be immediately obvious.
Now do I think it's better to support a struggling mother rather than give a Tesla buyer a $5k credit for a vehicle purchase? Absolutely. But the government cannot go spending money it doesn't have. There is just no end in sight though to government programs.
It honestly doesn't matter what I suggest because there is zero chance of my opinion making a difference. But the first step is a realistic account of revenue and spending, followed by allocating scare resources to those areas that need it most or can do the most with it. Perhaps single women will have to pool their resources, and this can lead to a tremendous savings. Not unlike college kids living in a dorm or having multiple roommates. The future is I think going to be about making sacrifices and living within your means.