The best traders cultivate a bad memory. Just like Kobe Bryant, the previous shot, good or bad, does not influence their decision whether to take the current shot.
After a bad loss, you need to do whatever works for you to regain your ability to trade from a neutral standpoint, without emotions affecting your trading decisions.
For you, that might be (a) get back to B/E; then (b) take a break for some period of time--whether five minutes or a few days--until you can start fresh without being affected by the prior trade.
I find that setting up rules in advance to cover most possible situations works well.
If you have rules set up that say x amount or number of losses per day, or in a row, or per month, are within the normal limits of your system, and x+y losses are not and thus require a particular action, all the agonizing disappears from trading.
After each loss (or gain), you either shrug it off as normal, or you take the action prescribed in your rules.
For example, a multi-step rule that says
1. after x losses in a row ($, %, or drawdown), you must cut your position size
2. after x more losses, cut position size again
3. after x more losses, go back to paper-trading
4. if losses continue, consider changing your system, etc.
This is what would be imposed upon you if you were working for someone else--you would have maximum allowed losses for the day, week, month, etc.
PS What do you do if you don't get back to B/E on your next trade? Another rule: Never enter a trade without knowing how you will exit.
I guess what it all comes down to is: Do you have a rule-based trading system or are you just trading by the seat of your pants?
After a bad loss, you need to do whatever works for you to regain your ability to trade from a neutral standpoint, without emotions affecting your trading decisions.
For you, that might be (a) get back to B/E; then (b) take a break for some period of time--whether five minutes or a few days--until you can start fresh without being affected by the prior trade.
I find that setting up rules in advance to cover most possible situations works well.
If you have rules set up that say x amount or number of losses per day, or in a row, or per month, are within the normal limits of your system, and x+y losses are not and thus require a particular action, all the agonizing disappears from trading.
After each loss (or gain), you either shrug it off as normal, or you take the action prescribed in your rules.
For example, a multi-step rule that says
1. after x losses in a row ($, %, or drawdown), you must cut your position size
2. after x more losses, cut position size again
3. after x more losses, go back to paper-trading
4. if losses continue, consider changing your system, etc.
This is what would be imposed upon you if you were working for someone else--you would have maximum allowed losses for the day, week, month, etc.
PS What do you do if you don't get back to B/E on your next trade? Another rule: Never enter a trade without knowing how you will exit.
I guess what it all comes down to is: Do you have a rule-based trading system or are you just trading by the seat of your pants?