Quote from caplan8293:
Let's say I buy a stock at $11, which my analysis shows should go to $13 in about two weeks. Instead, it drops down to $9 about two days later.
I am disappointed and want to get out, but do not want to take a $2 loss, so I hold on to it, hoping for a rebound. A week later, it goes back up to $11, which would allow me to exit flat. Do I sell it? NO. Instead, I feel that if I hold on to it a little longer, it will still go up to $13.
So what happens? I hold on to it and it drops back down to $9. The cycle starts over.
What is wrong with me?
Actually, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. This is just human nature at work. It is human nature to want to hold your losers all the way down (the slope of hope), as well as panicing and selling winners too soon. Most people buy high, and sell lower. The masses get fleeced every time (in the long run anyway).
You will hear people say that "trading is the hardest thing I ever tried to do", etc. This is because trading is contrarian in nature, it goes against popular ways to think. A very few people have a natural ability, most do not. Few can seperate emotions from the numbers and charts. Real traders with years of experience do not rely on HOPE, FEAR, or GREED, or for that matter WOULDA, SHOULDA, COULDA.
You have to learn how to trade and retrain your natural thinking. Don't feel bad, most everyone has to learn this. I think the best thing is take the time (months, years, etc) to come up with a system that has a slight edge in winners over losers and with a ratio that has average winners gaining more per trade than average losing trades , and come up with a ABSOLUTE stop level (like 3%, 5%, 7%, etc) that works within your system.....and PLAY THE SYSTEM!. Stops are for a reason. If you take 20% beatings like you described for very long, you will sour on trading or go bust and never trade again. If I took several 20% beatings in a row I would be so afraid of the next trade I do not think I could pull the trigger. My system does absorb several 3-5% losing trades in a row though. Never forget you can lose money two or three times faster than you can make it, and it is ten times easier to lose money than make money!
Always remember, stops are for a reason. Preservation of capitol and your nut is king. Live to trade another day. If your system works, in the long run you will win. You may have several losing trades in a row, but you will know your system will be profitable for the week, or month because you papertraded and forward traded it for something like a year before commiting money to it.
Trading is not easy, if it was easy everyone here would be rich. Look around....they are not.
