What is your single biggest fear in life?

All neurotic/perceived fear is rooted in fear of loss of something percieved substantial early on. (Darth Vader or is it dark invader?) The only real fear is fear of death. Once you handle that, that one day you won't wake up and the world will move on without you in it, fear alchemizes into unstoppable desire manifested on the street when people move out of your way off an unconscious vibe you own/project that they obviously recieve and get is clearer and stronger than theirs.
 
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...Let me tell you first why I asked the question. I read in a number of books over the years that there is a tendency (but not necessarily a certainty) for people to bring about into there lives that which they fear. Apparently, they bring it about by dwelling on their fears and therefore living in that context. For example, Elvis Presley was afraid that he would die in his early 40s as his mother did. And despite his fear, or perhaps because of it, that is what happened. His addiction to pain medication certainly didn't help, but neither did his obesity. However, you would have thought that his morbid, haunting fear would have prevented him from abusing drugs and becoming obese rather than drawn him to it.

Examples such as these, especially less dramatic ones that tend to go more unnoticed, got me thinking. Fear, or a healthy respect for the unknown and the uncontrollable seems to be a good thing, in that it serves to act as a protective mechanism. At what point, however, does a fear become an obstacle? How best to determine that point of demarcation and possibly prevent it from spilling over onto the "dark" side? I suspect that there are no clear answers other than waiting until a fear negatively affects your life and then working to eradicate it -- a trial and error of sorts.

One of my favorite television shows in its day was Frasier. One particular episode slapped me in the face, but good. Frasier was having a difficult time in his relationships with women. He was afraid of rejection. As a result, he was afraid to commit to a relationship because of his fear of vulnerability and rejection. He then came to the startling revelation: "I'm alone because I'm afraid of being alone!" Talk about an epiphany.

It was in that context that I wondered if respondents to this thread might find any similar revelations about themselves.

As for me, DonnaV, I have two competing fears. One is similar to that of Frasier. Another is the fear that one day I may have to stop trading because my method will cease to be viable despite my efforts to modify or overhaul it. The classic fear of failure, I suppose. Thank you for asking.
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Yes, yes. "Your fear makes it so" as a therapist of mine used to tell me. My fears parallel Thunderdog's: fear of being alone and fear that my trading method will stop working. I also have a fear of success. I've been working on all three for years.
 
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a very wise (and professionally trained person) once told me that every fear boils down to the fear of death. if you release that, there are no fears.
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Truer words were never spoken! :)
 
Quote from trade4succes:

a very wise (and professionally trained person) once told me that every fear boils down to the fear of death. if you release that, there are no fears.
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I'm not sure I agree. If you characterize fear of death as driving carefully, eating wisely and avoiding dark alleys in dangerous neighborhoods, then I suppose you may be right. But I prefer to regard that as living responsibly. My fear of death is vague and indirect, and it surfaces only in times of imminent physical danger. Perhaps I would be more aware of it if I were gravely ill or if I were living in a war zone.

However, if I had to boil it all down into a single fear, then I would probably conclude that my biggest fear is living a life that is not well lived. Since you only get to have one lick at the ice cream cone of life, it ought to be a good one.
 
My biggest fear is I will wake up in the morning on another planet
and be 100x as big as the people on the planet and they will think
I am an evil Giant and call me Cyclops or something...:p
 
My greatest fear, without a doubt, is that society suddenly plunges into an ultra- irrational hellhole morass ala Nazi Germany. People are weak. With a snap of the fingers your next door neighbor could be doing perverted medical expirements on elderly pensioners. Technology is moving in a direction where people's bizarrest desires and impulses are gratified and unchallenged.
 
I'm afraid of spiders.

I'm afraid that the western world's ever increasing wealth and automated workload (robots, computers) will eventually result in a (more) proud, lazy, individualistic society.

I'm afraid that in the not too distant future many people might die in large wars between the millions of aggressive Muslims and Isreal/US/willing Euros and Asians. Consider how they voted in the Hamas and the current Iranian president, and how bonkers they're going over a crude cartoon page.

I'm afraid that all my hard work at becoming successful might be in vain.
 
Biggest fear in life?

Losing a child to violence, accident, suffering and disease.

Everything else is not really important.
 
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