Quote from ChkitOut:
In general, a guy wants mostly looks and some relative sanity in a women. Thats about it.
As a girl with a pretty face and nice body, knowing that every guy on the planet wants to bang you, what is her primary motive in the mating game?
Find a suitable mate for long term partnership, happiness, and success...if she has any brains to go along with her hotness.
If you mean the dating game, it could be anything. But if the girl wants to settle down, the above applies, and the specific ingredients she is looking for in a man differ from gal to gal.
Looks are less important to most women, even very attractive women. They want to know you understand them, that you listen, that you are thoughful, selfless and reliable, that you will be a good dad, that you can provide interest and excitement in thier lives, and can provide economically.
Then they have a whole slew of other things they want no guy can deliver. Like your understanding exactly what they meant even though they said something entirely different.