When I first read “Market Wizards”, I didn’t quite understand this statement. Now after trading (and mostly losing) for a few years, I can say I finally get what Ed meant.
It’s absolutely true in my case. I realized I actually felt better when losing than winning deep in my heart. After thinking hard about this, it eventually came to me that I had a covert conviction that trading is a bad activity that does no good to the society’s well-being.
My profession is in science and technology and I have done well in my career - published a number of scientific papers and did a few technical inventions, which are all undoubtedly benefiting the society.
Once I figured this out and abandoned that secret conviction, my trading got much better. I told myself I deserved the winnings because I worked hard for it. So it seems to be a psychological phenomenon, but it can be hidden in the sub/unconsciousness and not immediately obvious.
First of all, some will understand my post, some won't and some think it bullshit, and that is ok as well. As years pass and as your knowledge of markets and self hopefully increase, the same whether a book or price action of what you read or see changes and yet it been right in front of you entire time. Two books by John Hill written in late 70's, Stock & Commodity Market Trend Trading by Advanced Technical Analysis and Scientific Interpretation of Barcharts. I bought these books in the 1980s and read twice a year, each time I walk away with different perspectives and still don't understand all that he was writing about, even visited him in the 90s and didn't understand yet. The is old phrase "DON'T JUDGE A MAN UNTIL YOU HAVE WALKED A MILE IN HIS BOOTS - "Don't criticize another person's work until you've tried to do it yourself; don't judge another person's life until you've been forced to live it". Rings more true today than written, we all have different crises to live through.
My taste of profitable long term trading in stocks for several years may have been a curse than a positive influence in learning how to trade Commodities long term and intra-day, price bars are price bars, right? Was a time in my life where I was never looking back, in mid 80s was married, step-father, working 60 hours for government a week, school full time, buying houses to rent out, sleep 3-4 hours, and learning how to lose in the Futures markets, I learned how to lose like my life depended on it and wasn't upset at it at some point, I was teaching my brain to be the happiest when I lost. How many of you now get the shakes, huge fear, horrible thoughts of a trade you put on and damn thing is profitable? At some point when I was in a profitable trade, I start puking, LOL. I had taught my brain how to lose and enjoy it. I was doing exactly what Seykota meant by everyone gets what they want from the markets, and yet I told myself I am learning by lying to myself. Marriage went south but not cause of trading, least lied to myself then, stayed a step-father to son and ex became best friend as years went by. To this day, most "ex's" better friends after. Took seven long years to re-teach my brain not to feel GREAT when losing, the very worst part of my life till my father's suicide which leaves you in different cycles of "where was I that I didn't see it", you can't save everyone and it a bitch to save yourself from yourself. You get from life of what you put in and how to help others, as you might not think others help you, maybe try looking smaller.
Hypnosis helped me much then and I still go 2-4 times a year, to reteach your brain, you have to get in deeper to subconscious, and at some point my brain was stopping to be my enemy of finding the losing trades and began to expect to be profitable overall on every trade. Sekota went onto teaching course on how to breath, which in a way very good, more oxygen you can give brain, more activity it can handle. And made "Trading Tribe".
http://www.seykota.com/tt/default.html
https://www.quora.com/What-were-Ed-Seykota-trading-strategies
http://forums.tomisimo.org/showthread.php?t=7912
Enjoy the ride, I never did the first go around....but ever since, most fun.