I am getting scared of trading options, especially TSLA.
Excellent. That might eventually stop you from firing off random trades that you obviously don't understand, and get you to either give up trading options OR doing a bit of studying so you'll understand why you shouldn't do this.
I bought a debit spread OTM with 4 days left.
Repeating: "...why you shouldn't do this."
Expanding a bit: look up the definition of theta (even better, look at the curve showing theta over time to expiration.) Then come back here and tell us why doing the above is a REALLY bad idea.
Question; how the hell can TSLA trade at $1600 but the options cost 13k?
Look up the inputs to the Black-Scholes formula, and note the one called "implied volatility".
Other question what the hell did I do wrong? I was right about the market, but it seems options have special ways of screwing me!
If you take a drill to your forehead, it's not the drill that has "special ways of screwing" you.