...I don't see how having a paper trading account can help with psychology either. Because knowing that all your money is fake doesn't help your state of mind. Instead I think I would treat it more like a gambling video game.
The big question is, should I cut back on my business to start trading better? Or do you think I'm doing right by sticking with my job and having a more comfortable attitude that will only get better as time goes on?
I have already decided that I'm in it for the long haul, but I want to at least have a nice gradual transition before I get there...
I hate the words "paper trading". In the old days...people would literally write down their
pretend trades on "paper" with a pen or pencil and then call it "paper trading".
The word or phrase now is "simulator trading" and it has a few purposes:
1) Assuming your trade method is backtested...simulator trading gives you an opportunity to determine if your backtest results have merit and simulator trading allows you to find problems with the trade method that obviously can't be seen in backtest results.
2) Simulator trading allows you to familiarize yourself to your broker trade execution platform. You'll be surprise at how many people not familiar with the platform make all kinds of weird mistakes when real money is on the line.
For example, clicking the Buy button when they meant to click the Sell button. Another one, they typed in 100 contracts instead of 10 contracts. Another one, they do not know how to setup an alert. Another one, they do not know how to use different types of orders for different trade situations. Another one, they didn't realize their computer doesn't have the system requirements to use the broker trade execution platform and many other reasons involving knowing your broker trade execution platform.
3) Simulator trading allows someone to develop a routine in applying their trade method or a routine involving preparation for the trading day.
4) Simulator trading allows the trader to compare the simulator results to the backtesting results to see if the metrics are similar...gives you a sneak preview about what real money trading will be like.
All the above will help with your confidence level, getting organize and if you can maintain your routine, maintain your discipline while trading on a simulator the exact same position size you will be trading with real money...
Its a lot better than ignoring the simulator and then jumping into dark waters of live real money trading.
Just about everything you do in life...you practive it
prior to doing the real thing. That's what education does to anybody that's attended school (e.g. elementary, high school, college, job intern)...education shows us we need to practice, practice and practive prior to do the real thing.
That was the first take away I got from school as a kid. Read through the homework...answer the questions in back of the book...read through the homework again...have a friend or family member test you with some questions...
Next, you go to class and take the real exam while being nervous, fearful and prepare for any question. After the exam...there's a sense of release and accomplishment and then you start the whole process of practicing again for the next exam.
Hopefully, you've developed a good routine and you know what it takes to get good grades in class.
As for your job...its your guarantee or backup plan if you screw up your trading.
Do not quit your job until you've proven with real money for a minimum of a
few years that trading can replace your job with benefits and you've examine the real costs of trading with your tax accountant, loved ones and occupational hazards of the profession as a trader.
You mention you set your stops and walk away from your computer. Seriously, in today's age of high tech...set alerts on those stops to send you a message to your cell phone (keep your cell phone with you at all times when you set those alerts).
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