i too find it a distraction or a joke like overnight for example.Or they succeed and realize that there is way too much drama and noise on forums, lol. Don't take someone's absence as a sign they blew up or gave up. I traded with a group for a while, but I really only grew after I unplugged. Popping in every now and then can be fun, but there is no need to stay on here all the time like when I was in my early stages.