Quote from Rashid_G.:
Guys,
I have decided to stop trading for a while. Yes today was bad but nothing terrible. However I am continually stepping over dollars (my work) to pick up pennies (trading). The only way to keep at it would be to trade significantly more contracts but even a 1 contract trade is scary to me, preventing me from applying even the simplest of systems. 1 contract or 5 contracts takes the same amount of time.
Until financially I can comfortably trade multiple units with 15m bar stops (5 to 10 pts.) I shouldn't and won't trade. 5k per contract about right... Need to build capital to such a level.
Hard decision but the right one...
Typed this out last night but was hesitant to post it. Well what the heck...
You just need a break from trading.
I get this feeling that you subconsciously treat trading the same way you treat a normal job. If you only have 2 hrs to trade before work, you will force yourself to trade as much as possible to try to get the most out of those two hrs.
In a normal society we work a regular job and get paid an hourly wage based on how many hours we put in. In trading we get paid solely on our performance, the market doesn't care how many hrs we sit in front of our monitors. The lifestyle of a trader is vastly different than that of a normal person working a regular job and I'll be the first to admit that it took me a while to get used to this way of life. There is more freedom in this business than any other. I use to feel guilty and down right useless because after the market closes at 1pm my time, I've got nothing else to do. But slowly I started to understand what it means to be a trader in the broader sense and how that role plays in my life.
My point is that we try to apply our normal way of life to the trading world which is totally counter intuitive, and that's why trading is so hard. We are used to having control over alot of our exterior environment. If you want coffee you turn on the coffee maker. If you wanted to listen to music you press the power button and music will most likely come out because you did something to affect that change. Same thing with the TV, you changed something in the environment for the TV to turn on.
In trading you can't control what the market will do. No matter how much you want price to go in a certain direction after you entered, there is nothing you can do to make it go in that direction. This is where the normal everyday life gets in the way of trading, and the root cause as to why we engage in revenge trading. When we have a loss, the natural tendency is to try to get that money back as soon as possible, just like the natural tendancy to press the power button on the stereo when we want to hear music. And we both know the most probable outcome from both of those events.