kp. There are so many things I could say about this soap opera, but in my humble opinion you're too focused on how other people are doing it down to every little detail. You want to trade discretionally; then you will have to accept that there will be some more fuzziness compared to if you'd trade mechanically.
I want to remind you that there are a couple of stylized facts for asset price processes in the academic literature (do the google research if you're interested). In essence you've got properties like long tails, volatility clustering (i.e. expansion vs contraction; i.e. it is a mean reverting process), and long term memory.
It is more or less those properties that you are trying to exploit here. You can do that in several ways, and there are many threads and books about it, but just the other day we had Db repeat it again (
http://www.elitetrader.com/et/index...w-a-straight-line.287955/page-34#post-4080349):
Keep it simple. Don't focus on the minutiae. Don't hunt perfection. If you want to trade discretionally and get this "feeling" you're talking about (but at the same time you're hinting above how this approach might be too "spiritual" for you...), then pick a bar interval that gives you the time to reflect over the situation. You will never be able to internalize anything if you're just stressing out all the time; you have to be open and receptive.
Keep it simple. You're familiar with the market's properties. Now just wait for the right behaviour (and you've heard also this from ND, Db, and countless others before): if it doesn't move [as expected], get out.