neo, hr,
How are things going? Haven't chatted with you for a while.
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"So basically my fear of pulling the trigger comes from hearing "it can go up, or it can sink down noone really predicts the future" too much. I can be looking for a stock that is waay outside upper BB and normally ODDS say go short as a SKY. but thern I think Hey, this may be another bull market, lemme enter on this pullback. Throw in multiple timeframes and there you have a confused wannabe trader with awesome enthusiasm but no real guidance. And I cannot afford to try it all and get left without any more money and opportunity to try some more. im not whining here but the more I try the more I feel that only way to start trading and not loose too much and get frustrated and dissappointed is to have a mentor , someone whos been through it all and who can guide you little by little. Now, when I could get Candletrader or Tony to move to Croatia he he ..."
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You've read a lot of stuff, probably far more than I have and you've observed the market far longer than I have. However, it strikes me that you are still doing things in your head. Mark Douglas puts it beautifully in Trading in the Zone, "You can try to eliminate risk by learning about as many market variables as possible. (I call this the black hole of analysis, because it is the path of ultimate frustration.) Or you can learn how to redefine your trading activities in such a way that you truly accept the risk, and you're no longer afraid" (pp. 14-15).
I've never paper traded and personally I don't quite believe it. Paper trading may only be good to determine whether a method or a system works, but it won't teach you something about yourself. When real money is on the line, things change. Right now, you've got a lot of knowledge about strategies and supposed discipline in your head, but the truth of the matter is that they count only when you see your capital eaten away by a trade that is going against you. The removal of fear and recklessness can only come through experience and a painful process of remaking yourself. And there is no shortcut.
Trading has changed my personality. I wasn't a risk taker, but I am now far better in taking measured risks in my life than I was before. So trading has positive (or negative) ramifications throughout other areas of your life. However, until you faced those demons of greed, fear, recklessness and overcome them, good market analysis and strategies could give you a false sense of security.
Someone puts it aptly on this board. You can trade as a hobby; you can trade for your retirement, or you can trade as a full-time trader. And there are different levels of expertise and commitments demanded. Regardless, you still have to face the same demons of greed, fear and recklessness if you want to be successful, no matter what timeframes you are talking about. And it is only when real money is on the line that those demons will appear in full force. I'm not putting down on techniques and strategies, but I am just saying that no matter how good these are, you still have to fight those demons and overcome them.
Neo, I didn't have a mentor. I wished I could have had one. But haven't you learnt something from the more mature traders on this board? (I personally have.) Do you know that you are already being coached? No mentors can trade for you and I don't think any trader needs one single mentor.
I hope this helps.
Best,
stockopt.