Hello,
I have a full time career job for paying the bills and family, etc etc.
Trading for me is more of a hobby and possible additional income. It's a great challenge trying to figure our how to make consistent money comfortable and less stressful. But lately it's becoming more of an obession but fun obession.
I am unprofitable and trading paper til it figure out what works. Slowly but surely.
Keep the career, and keep trading on the side, whatever you do dont dive into trading hardcore till you got atleast 2 years of bills covered, and you have proven yourself with real dollars on the line. I was lucky enough to find trading in University when i was 20 when the money didnt matter, cause i lived at home, and and another had a another way to make money so i didnt need it.
With that said, early in my career worked at a prop firm with a hundreds of traders, and i only know 3 of those guys who are still doing this
Since then i have hit many times where trading became incredibly difficult cause i needed the money, (mostly tax situations,) twice in my career i have taken a bath in January, or February and had no money to pay the tax bill from the year before because i was trying to grow accounts agressively, and i wasnt setting anything aside for taxes, I once walked in too the gas station and couldnt pay for the gas in my car cause the government put a freeze on my account cause i owed 45k in taxes, it took a year of poor trading, and hardcore grinding to get myself out of that, but i would have went bankrupt if i didnt know what i was doing, and if i had a massive nut to pay every month.
Alot of the time the simulator doesnt do much for people cause at the end of the day you can just reset it, Make sure you are taking vigorous stats, and studying, but i really think at the end of the day you need to take some losses that will sting in order to learn.
By no means am i encouraging you to go out and become a cowboy with an account and blow it out so you can learn, but IMO good trading is really about figuring out what you can or cannot get away with, and most of the time you only learn that lesson by losing real money.
What i mean by that is this, some days you will notice setups that are highly profitable to chase, but other days chasing what seems like a breakout/breakdown will kill you, same thing with being stubborn on a long/short that you have conviction on that keeps going against you.
You need years to seperate the two, and IMO its like a kid touching a hot stove, eventually in trading you just get burned enough to know what you absolutely CAN NOT DO in the market, then its just about refining the things you CAN DO and getting better at it. This leads to another point that i could talk about for days, but make sure you find your "niche" in the market, there is a million different ways to skin a cat but you will only learn what works best for you through trial and error.
Anyways, Hope this helps and it doesnt seem like incoherent rambling.