Nitro's quote
What is the "solution"? Never put money and inanimate objects in front of people. Don't live in fear. Work hard but never forget to play hard and laugh alot. Marry a friend - that means you have to become friends first and not lovers, usually.
Nitro - you forgot "Dance like no one is watching." pleeeeaaaaazeee!
1. NONE of the above requires marriage, aka long term liabilities.
2. 60% to 67% of marriages in Califa end in divorce. buy insurance, aka stop loss, aka prenup. you wouldnt put on a trade and go to the moon, right?
3. are you the same person at 50 yo that you were at 20? of course not! do you expect your mate to be? of course not!
4. this kinda muddled, mushy thinking is what puts guys in the poor house for eternity while their wife, kids and wifey's boyfriend live in his mansion. they are blindsided when their "friend" cleans them out and their best buddy is screwing the ex (ex-friend???), raising their kids and spending their money. a marriage is a contract and if you dont believe it, talk to some buddies who have been through divorce court - and divorce court is NOT fair. set the terms of partnership dissolution before you enter the partnership - and marriage is a legal partnership. once again, i think you can be sued for LIFETIME support after 10 yrs of marriage in Cali. unless you figure on coming around again, a LIFETIME just about covers it for most of us.
5. did you plagerize this from a Hallmark card?
nitor says:
I"If you marry believing you need a prenupt, I claim you are already off balance in your relation and are entering a mirrage that is anti-percentage."
1. one last thing... this preachy b.s. is kinda based upon "the guy gets what he deserves, or if you get divorced you're defective." this is a load of phooey! when a COUPLE divorces - note its COUPLE - the wife can choose to dump your ass - an unknown 3rd party is gonna decide what happens to your assets, your children, your income, YOUR LIFE. is he/judge having a bad day? is she/judge a flaming feminist? is something about you aggrevating to the judge? i once had a psychologist tell me that i reminded her of someone she didnt like:eek: (im pretty sure it was her dad or ex-husband - she wasnt my type anyway.)
my ex- and i split things down the middle and i pay every month, which for all the kidding, i dont mind as my children live very well. my ex- remarried with a guy, who i bend-over backwards to help and be nice to... i bought him software on my license and trained him in my profession (for free), but he wasnt wired to do what i do - no problem. turns out, he's ,kinda a player with some "hang-ups", so i had to consult some professionals to get answers regarding being around my children. this is serious, so just b/c you divorce you dont just shake hands and walk away.
one last time: be VERY, VERY careful in your choice as a mate. negotiate the break-up before you form the partnership. set aside a disaster fund. always remember that no one gets married expecting to divorce and that you are not SO special that bad things cant happen to you. and do all those things that Nitro suggest, but cover you ass too.
What is the "solution"? Never put money and inanimate objects in front of people. Don't live in fear. Work hard but never forget to play hard and laugh alot. Marry a friend - that means you have to become friends first and not lovers, usually.
Nitro - you forgot "Dance like no one is watching." pleeeeaaaaazeee!
1. NONE of the above requires marriage, aka long term liabilities.
2. 60% to 67% of marriages in Califa end in divorce. buy insurance, aka stop loss, aka prenup. you wouldnt put on a trade and go to the moon, right?
3. are you the same person at 50 yo that you were at 20? of course not! do you expect your mate to be? of course not!
4. this kinda muddled, mushy thinking is what puts guys in the poor house for eternity while their wife, kids and wifey's boyfriend live in his mansion. they are blindsided when their "friend" cleans them out and their best buddy is screwing the ex (ex-friend???), raising their kids and spending their money. a marriage is a contract and if you dont believe it, talk to some buddies who have been through divorce court - and divorce court is NOT fair. set the terms of partnership dissolution before you enter the partnership - and marriage is a legal partnership. once again, i think you can be sued for LIFETIME support after 10 yrs of marriage in Cali. unless you figure on coming around again, a LIFETIME just about covers it for most of us.
5. did you plagerize this from a Hallmark card?
nitor says:
I"If you marry believing you need a prenupt, I claim you are already off balance in your relation and are entering a mirrage that is anti-percentage."
1. one last thing... this preachy b.s. is kinda based upon "the guy gets what he deserves, or if you get divorced you're defective." this is a load of phooey! when a COUPLE divorces - note its COUPLE - the wife can choose to dump your ass - an unknown 3rd party is gonna decide what happens to your assets, your children, your income, YOUR LIFE. is he/judge having a bad day? is she/judge a flaming feminist? is something about you aggrevating to the judge? i once had a psychologist tell me that i reminded her of someone she didnt like:eek: (im pretty sure it was her dad or ex-husband - she wasnt my type anyway.)
my ex- and i split things down the middle and i pay every month, which for all the kidding, i dont mind as my children live very well. my ex- remarried with a guy, who i bend-over backwards to help and be nice to... i bought him software on my license and trained him in my profession (for free), but he wasnt wired to do what i do - no problem. turns out, he's ,kinda a player with some "hang-ups", so i had to consult some professionals to get answers regarding being around my children. this is serious, so just b/c you divorce you dont just shake hands and walk away.
one last time: be VERY, VERY careful in your choice as a mate. negotiate the break-up before you form the partnership. set aside a disaster fund. always remember that no one gets married expecting to divorce and that you are not SO special that bad things cant happen to you. and do all those things that Nitro suggest, but cover you ass too.
