I think one thing to remember is that if you're winning, people always want to know why. And how much. And more importantly, what would it take for them to do the same thing.
Most of the time it's simple experience that's at work when you're winning. You've been in enough situations to know when they're going bad and when to cut and run. And when you're in a good one just how long you can let it play before you drop the curtain.
There was this article in Time a few years ago about DNA computers and how they could do complex calculations in a half an hour that a Cray might take months or years to complete. The problem was, the DNA computers took a half an hour to do EVERY problem. Even something as easy as 2+2. So the DNA computers ended up being impractical for every day use.
As a trader you train your own mental DNA machine to understand certain movements, or patterns, and in a sense become a lightning rod for market signals that mean something to you. So success is built on your own learning algorithms and on your defeats as much as your successes. People want a quick fix. Or the results of all of your hard hours, months and years of programming (i.e. cash). They say that money is simply the Universal, or Universe's applause. And if you're doing it right, and for the right reasons, you'll make money at your profession. If you're an opera singer, applause rings through the auditorium -- and is gone. Applause as a trader moves into your bank account and has some utility. So the question is what do you do with it?
I was taught at a young age to give 10% to charity. Pay off your debt, if any, with 20%, put aside 10% and live on the other 60 (or 80% if you have no debt). It seems to work out well. And I've discovered that charity can be anything you want it to be -- but you have to learn how to pick your battles -- and your causes. Or people will try to pick them for you. And they're not always nice about it if they know you could lend them $40,000 without blinking. And you don't do it, and further aren't inclined to explain why. You could, but then, they'd still try to convince you, or go away mad. So what's the point?
We are all the same that way -- a little bit socialist in our thinking when we stand below our peers in wealth or accumulations. And when we stand above the line a little more likely to give. A good friend of mine always said when you play any game start with a plan. And having a plan for your success is as important as any other.
Personally, I drive a shitty car. I live in a small house. I dress modestly and spend money on things that really matter. Staying home with my kids. Taking trips. Exercising. Reading. The things you can look back on and say when you're lying on the hospital gurney and you know you're not going to make it out this time -- mine has been a life well lived.
Enough said.
Panther