Quote from giles117:
A perfectionist who has learned that failure is ok can learn to trade. I was one such person.
Perfect to a flaw (Oops, I was imperfect, but you couldnt tell me that. LOL) Being an engineer.
The wisest pc of advise came from a psychologist. He told me quit trying to be so perfect. You spend more time trying to be perfect when you probably got it working better than 90% of the people out there in the 1st 10 minutes. The last 50 minutes you've just been wasting time.
Loosen up a bit, and have fun with life. Trying to be perfect will eventually stress you out. Class A personalities have this bad.
I've only been trading for 4 months myself (this go round. I got burned a few years back, like alot of us Perfectionists who were clueless) This time I started small. (100 to 500 share lots) and what I learned most (which is what you may have missed) is Money Management.
Watching those losses has allowed me to be up, not down.
While you are panicking, step back. Study Risk/Money management and look at all your mistakes and jump back in.
As others have said, never average down in a losing trade. Thats insane. You might as well hit Harrahs and bet it all. At least you'll get a free drink out of it. LOL.
Honestly, since rejoining the fold, I avg 3 out of 5 losing trades, but those 2 winners. Biggest thing is I keep my losers SMALL and I jump out QUICK. It's like being in the middle of a gun fight and you dont have a gun. Dont stay, you'll get shot.