Its easy to say all these things.... but you have to understand that a child that has not been brought up and taught these things will not know any better. Right or wrong.... thats the way it is. I mean it is.
That's a valid point. It used to be shameful to have children out of wedlock or for a guy to walk out on his family. Today, things have changed and bad behavior has become normalized. In Germany around the time that I was born (I did not live in Germany, but this is a story that I heard from my grandfather), people used to honk at you if your car broke down and blocked traffic. If your car broke down, other drivers would see you as negligent for not properly maintaining your car and causing other people to waste time caused by carelessness. I think that may be a bit extreme, but today's culture in the US tends to make victims out of everyone who made bad decisions. My point is that one should be able to learn right and wrong decision making through cultural values. But those have been removed because it makes some people feel bad or encourages judgement of others.
Sig, the guy you knew sounds like an admirable person. Sounds like he did everything right. But his dad and mom sound like irresponsible pieces of s**t for putting him in that situation along with his two siblings. I know a couple people too who came from a hard background, but still managed to stay in school, worked hard, built their dream home, and are a couple years away from enjoying a comfortable retirement. I wouldn't just assume that everyone screws around while relying on weak birth control to avoid becoming pregnant. Yes, it happens, but it's not responsible. And even if they are using two forms of birth control, there's always adoption...many good parents out there who want kids, but cannot have them. And why do you think that I actually have to make bad decisions in order for me to proclaim a bad decision as a bad decision? I can say that eating a Tide Pod or injecting whatever is in a random syringe is a bad idea without actually having done it myself. And I never gave statistics about how many people are lazy and how many are not. My argument doesn't rely on that. I'm just saying that people should not have kids who are not in a position to care for them. That doesn't mean that some people should never have kids...just not until they are ready for them. Seems pretty logical to me.