I'm not suggesting that you publish your trading rules or strategy here. However, this is what I understand your overall strategy to be:
"--my system for picking momentum trades is very basic. exponential moving averages on four intraday time frames (2, 5, 60 min, and a chart that switches between 10 min and 2 hour) along with slow stochastics and MACD to help pick entry/exit points. two daily charts with different moving averages help evaluate "big picture," but not necessarily trade direction."
Now, if that is your entire plan, it is grossly insufficient. If that is the overall idea, and you don't want to publish the details, I can totally understand that. I suspect that if you have more 'details' for your strategy, then they are insufficient versus the detail you need.
For example, if you were to give you wife/brother/neighbor the details of your strategy, and they were to trade in another room, would their trade entries/exits be essentially identical to yours? If not, then I would suggest that you have an overall idea of what you want to do, but are basically 'winging it'.
Some traders are successful with that, but it's not what I'd advice for a beginning trader.
Let's look at some of your comments from this week:
"i try to align my stops with the correct time frame i'm trading, but i'm so used to watching a two-minute chart for entries that i forget to look two inches down to the five or ten minute to monitor my position. i watch the two minute chart whipsaw, i panic, then ignore my stop and manually take a small loss to keep things from getting out of hand. this is what happened with my first trade."
=> Sounds like you're not following your plan, and making excuses ("forgot to look" "panic"). Successful trading is boring. You follow your plan, that's all you do. Winning trades, losing trades... they are all the same, you follow your plan. No emotion.
"i was shaken up after that and made another lousy call."
=> Did you really make another lousy call or were you following your plan and it was just a losing trade? Don't take losses personally ("I was shaken up"). If trading properly, IMO, <i>you</i> didn't make a bad trade, the system did. <i>You</i> did your job and followed your system. Or did you, that is the question.
" i panic when my trade turns red and cut out at the bottom. today i forced myself to move my stops back a bit and also give the trades some room rather than watch the ticks like a hawk."
=> Why did you move your stops? Did you have statistically significant evidence that the new stop location was an improvement over the prior stop location? Did you change your plan on the fly? It just sounds like you don't have any plan on what you are doing, and are winging it on every trade based upon gut feel or instincts. Not a good idea, IMO, and not something I'd call a trading strategy, or plan.
"eagerness to get into the trade too quickly. i've jumped into several in anticipation of confirmation"
=> Why did you do this? Did your trading plan tell you to jump into the trade in anticipation? Sounds like you are making excuses for getting into a trade that you should never have entered.
"cyclobenzaprine and vicodin. i didn't really think about it until this afternoon but i probably should have skipped trading a few more days till i'm no longer on drugs. i started having back spasms over the weekend and though i don't want to admit it, my judgment is probably off."
=> Are you trading today? If so, are you off the pain killers? If you are trading today, and are still using the pain killers, then it sounds like you were making an excuse for yesterday's performance OR are begin stupid to repeat the same mistake today (assume it's a valid reason to not trade).
Bottom line: I'm not trying to give you undeserved crap. However, it sounds to me that you don't have a clue what you want to do in your trading. Until you do, you are likely destined to lose money. Once you DO know what you want to do in your trading, then you <i>may</i> have a chance to be successful. Even then, the odds are against you. But, currently, it sounds like you are floating in the wind, letting the trade urge hit you whenever the feeling is right.
My suggestions at this point, develop a trading plan that your friend could follow in your absence and make the same trades that you would make using that plan (i.e. have it be objective, not subjective). Then, develop a sense of confidence that this trading plan is a valid way to break even or better in the markets (backtesting, paper trading, etc), and THEN trade the system in the market using real money. Note that if you had a stock account at IB, for example, you could do your 'paper trading' with 100 share lots of the SPY and not be risking any significant amounts of cash, but single lots of the ES are much more risky.
I should add that by posting your results here, you are being accountable in a way. I would prefer to see an attitude such as this to increase my odds for your success:
"Well, today was a crappy day. My system made four trades, all losers. However, I followed my plan on every trade and realize that losing trades/days are part of the business. I have tested or traded this system long enough to know that these days are inevitable, and therefore, I haven't lost any confidence in my methods after a day like this. I will continue to follow my plan explicitly tomorrow, and I know that the odds are in favor of tomorrow being a profitable day."
Try to get yourself to this level of confidence and attitude, to increase your odds of success, IMO. Also, I should emphasize that having blind and unwarrented confidence in a bad system is not sufficient. You need adequate testing to legitimately develop confidence that your system/methods are good. Once there, you should blindly follow your system and not sweat the P&L on a daily basis. Or at least, not allow your sweat to make the slightest difference in how you execute your trades.
Quote from the Market Wizards book:
"I don't trade for fun. I trade to make money."