Yes, I think my "friend" gets angry at the lack of control. He thinks the nitpicking about work, or unexpected "todo" list at work is going to ruin his life to an extent for the next several days/weeks...but even though he knows the reasons behind the anger, he still gets angry...experience and awareness don't cause my friend to stop geting angry under the right circumstances.
The loneliness of success
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Yes, I think my "friend" gets angry at the lack of control. He thinks the nitpicking about work, or unexpected "todo" list at work is going to ruin his life to an extent for the next several days/weeks...but even though he knows the reasons behind the anger, he still gets angry...experience and awareness don't cause my friend to stop geting angry under the right circumstances.
seriously if he can, a very good clinic psy , would sorte the problem 
He was not born with this emotional conditioning and pattern of behavior.
He learned it, so can unlearn it.
He was not born with this emotional conditioning and pattern of behavior.
He learned it, so can unlearn it.
My friend already tried all that.I guess I have a completely different perspective regarding clinical psy.
If he did not get good help, then he did not take a suitable one. I'd encourage him to keep looking for one that can help him, if he wants to get rid of the problem.
If he did not get good help, then he did not take a suitable one. I'd encourage him to keep looking for one that can help him, if he wants to get rid of the problem.
your friend probably hasn't internalized how little control we have in what goes on in life, even in our own decisions let alone others.
have you ever thought about why you did something dumb? for example, what if you decided to study harder on that exam in high school that you failed, perhaps that would have snowballed into something and your life would be completely different right now.
BUT, if you also ask yourself, is there any possible way the results of that test could have been any different than failure? the answer is no, it couldn't. because the outcome of failing that test was a product of everything that happened since the day you were born and you cant change any of that, so you cant say, i should have studied more, because no, you couldnt have studied more, because you didnt have it in you to study more.
so getting angry about things is relatively pointless.
hahahaha actually your friend situation is making me think of one cartoon.
Can't get the name of it. ... Just before the 5 o'clock, the boss comes for additional work. lol. No matter what they do. like clockwork, the boss shows up at 5 to 5 with some todo list. The exasperation on the employees face lol.
Can't get the name of it. ... Just before the 5 o'clock, the boss comes for additional work. lol. No matter what they do. like clockwork, the boss shows up at 5 to 5 with some todo list. The exasperation on the employees face lol.
to put in perspective anger and anger.
Get ready :eek:
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Religious people put Anger , Hate, Rage and Murder as the Four Dominant Demons. We have to understand that religion uses some imageries - such demons, etc... However, these type of situations are the best images to understand very strong negative and destructive emotions.
People do not get born with these destructive emotions. Events create situations where these are learned. So best for people to seriously face these and get some serious help - medical, psychologue, psychiatrist, clinical psychiatrist, and even religious psychologue if all fails.
Get ready :eek:
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Religious people put Anger , Hate, Rage and Murder as the Four Dominant Demons. We have to understand that religion uses some imageries - such demons, etc... However, these type of situations are the best images to understand very strong negative and destructive emotions.
People do not get born with these destructive emotions. Events create situations where these are learned. So best for people to seriously face these and get some serious help - medical, psychologue, psychiatrist, clinical psychiatrist, and even religious psychologue if all fails.
Now , whoever has fear of success because of direct or indirect abuse by someone, should definitively realise, their success is absolutely not responsible for any of this anger.
Fear of success because others view your success as "Unmerited Favor".
Again religious people:
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Again religious people:
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Now even more on "Unmerited favor"
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So no need to fear success - even if some think it is "unmerited". All the more actually, you should flaunt it. lol.
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So no need to fear success - even if some think it is "unmerited". All the more actually, you should flaunt it. lol.