The loneliness of success

Quote from Grandluxe:

Interesting. Is that Joseph Campbell?
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Thanks for the comment.
I think it is him.
Most do not realise what choices "successful" people have had to make. Most only see the good things, but reading their biographies, how many would go through the "dues".
 
Quote from NoDoji:

Based on my personal experience, self-sabotage and procrastination are not symptoms of "fear of success", they're symptoms of fear of failure. Procrastination allows a person to remain in a state of hope ("I can accomplish X whenever I make the decision to; I just haven't decided to yet.") and self-sabotage allows a person to blame external factors for failure to get started or to succeed.

With regard to day trading, for example, you may believe you have an edge, yet have a problem putting on trades based on your observations. You hesitate because you first want to see some confirmation that you're right, and you miss the move or get in late (which dilutes or even ruins your edge). Or you check email, surf the net, go get a snack or cup of coffee, pet the dog, when you're supposed to be watching for setups to unfold. This gives you an "out" for missing a great setup. If this happens occasionally, it's not a problem, but if it happens regularly, it's self-sabotage.

Both of these examples illustrate fear of failure. If you hesitate, you're either afraid of losing trades or you're afraid of uncertainty in general (meaning you either don't have a statistically valid plan or you doubt your ability to remain steadfast in an environment of constant uncertainty). If you become easily distracted and miss opportunities, you're afraid of finding out you don't have what it takes to produce consistent profitability as a trader.
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You are indeed making some very valid observations.
From what I am reading, the "fear of success" is really about someone who has demonstrated they can reach whetever target/goal set. But for some reasons ( psychology), they kind of flunk or do something to flunk.
For instance, trading profitably on a demo for 2 years in a row and flunking when live. Or trading profitably live and last trade wiping a whole account, etc... these are some examples.
For those who might be in this situation, this can be luckily sorted. So no need to despair. :)
 
fear of success :

on the outside vs on the inside comfort zone

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Quote from Smart Money:

The distinction is that I can't talk about what i'm doing and its killing me. I have plenty of friends, but I just can't discuss what I'm most interested in with them. In that aspect, I'm lonely. No guilt over the success (yet) either. :)
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find some old people in your area, they always need help as they hang on to the last days before the nursing home,listen to them, your success will seem trivial,it's just money,don't think about the money,now you are just a semi pro video game player,donate some of it here and there, make it make a difference,might make you feel good,and help you forget about the trivia , no offense but if ones goal is talking about self,it's pretty shallow,you may need to round yourself out a bit ,meeting others and knowing there ups and downs helps you grow,this is a very boring business for all but about 1 hour each day and sometimes its one hour each week,people can be the most interesting thing in life
 
"fear of success" , example : holding back just when you feel you are near...

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interesting

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very very very good

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fear of success again

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another example
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