Yes! If I'm considering trading as a career, then the information you've provided here is what I'd expect to gather after sort of "job shadowing" successful traders. Thank you very much for this.
I think that what I meant by "means to end" was that I view all money as just a tool and a means to an end. Succeeding in the market is not an end in itself, just like having stock piles of money in an account is not an end in itself. My real end goal is financial freedom to afford generosity with both my time and money. The "means to end" statement does not, in itself, communicate how desperate I am to do whatever it takes to achieve that end.
Bottom line, I completely agree with your statement. I don't see how it will be possible for me to survive this learning curve (losing money for six months, breaking even for who knows how long, clawing my way back to a net account gain of zero and eventually becoming profitable) without tremendous passion and determination to do whatever it takes to learn and grow.
One of the keys I seem to have noticed is that the majority of successful traders at some point found a structured educational program (or at least, a well-defined, documented approach), and also had some degree of mentoring from successful traders. Those who didn't, and/or developed their own methods "from scratch," tended to take longer, and were simply able to survive the learning curve both time-wise and financially. (And my guess is that an even higher percentage of them never became successful.)
Of course, the question then becomes: "how do you find the right educational program or approach?" From what I've seen, it's mostly trial & error, recommendations (which will be all over the place unless maybe the person making the recommendation knows something about you, your personality, financial situation, etc.), etc. My personal belief is that there are infinite potentially successful approaches to trading, and a lot of the stuff out peddled out there actually can "work" -- it has a great deal more to do with finding something that's a good fit for you, and also how much you're willing to change yourself to match that approach.
So in that sense, there also seems to be a fair amount of luck involved. The few I've seen who were successful very early on -- say after 2 years -- may have just happened to stumble upon the right approach for them early on. (And they still also put in a ton of time & effort into their own development prior to and going forward.) They seem be the the "outliers of the outliers" (i.e., out of the few who manage to succeed at all). Even for those who found success later on -- to some degree, there still may have been an element of luck involved in eventually finding the right approach for them out of the thousands out there.
I believe you can also increase your odds and speed up the process by actively trying/studying different approaches and doing a
lot of constant introspection, really getting to know yourself... vs. focusing more on "how much $$ this trader makes using this approach," or "how this approach only requires you to trade 1/2 hr a day," etc. Of course, most of would want to make the most amount of $$ in the shortest amount of time with the least amount of risk, lol! But what is a realistic "best fit" for your personality and personal circumstances? Maybe not something that requires you to stretch excessively in too many areas.
It's too bad no one (that I know of) has developed some sort of "trading approach aptitude" test... where based on your personal scores in various categories, there may be a probability-based "best approach(es)" for you -- e.g., based on your scores, you're likely to find most success scalping, or trading options, etc. But maybe you can get some of that by talking to experienced, successful traders. Best wishes for your success!
(P.S. And thanks for clarifying re: "means to an end." I get it.)