Quote from marketsurfer:
Lots of rich guys have a very difficult time getting past the first date. I know a guy who is worth millions and he is soooo honest women can't stand him--
Lots of average guys who can relate to certain types of women have their choice of dozens without the money.
It's all personality and game. Money only has a small part to do with it--- it's more how you spend/ manage/goals/ dreams that sell you in her eyes.
It's good that you at least acknowledge that money plays a part, though I am uncertain that it is only a small part.
The world is replete with examples of wonderful people of high intellect who never fulfilled their potential for a variety of reasons.
Say you are the same intelligent, charming, witty, etc, etc, individual, but somehow fell on hard times. Presented with a choice of being homeless or taking up work as a garbage collector, you chose the latter. Can you honestly say your wife would still have married you had you met her under those circumstances?
I'm not picking on you or your wife. A long time ago I mused on this with regard to all the women I ever had even a slightly meaningful relationship with. I asked myself a simple question, had I been a taxi driver who picked them up (as a fare) and had a splendid conversation on the journey, could that have been the start of the relationship? Sadly, I came to the conclusion that it would have been highly unlikely.
Yup, I had all the qualities they were looking for, and that included the money. Not rich mind, but stable with good prospects and women do like stable to begin with. As I got older and the prospects were realised, it became easier to attract women. Of course initially my ego led me to believe it was because I was wiser, more relaxed, more worldly. Perhaps it was all those, but the money certainly didn't hurt. Old and rich often trumps young and broke. Not always, but often enough.