Seeing People for Who They Really Are

The Significance Needs
Behavior Indicators:

The Braggart...
  • Will typically speak about their accomplishments, impact on their community, and they way they have contributed to their workplace or family
The Show-off
  • Will be drawn toward projects, activities, and tasks that make them stand out from the crowd or become more memorable
The Maverick
  • Will create a way to deviate from the norm to be seen as an outlier
 
The Need for Significance is a desire to feel significant. It is confirmed by the behavior of others around us (which I see as a problem, since I believe our significance is actually confirmed by our relationship with Yahweh, our creator.

The person who is driven by this need internally asks themselves: "Do others view me as significant and making an impact?"

These people characteristically behave in ways that tend to make the most impact on those around them, as described in the list found in Post #21.

Outward Indicators Include:
  • Obvious wealth indicators
  • Contributions to a cause on bumper stickers, shirts, or bags
  • Openly conveying wealth
  • Novel and distinctive facial hair
  • Showing musculature
  • Sowing cleavage
  • Focus conversations on themsleves
  • Status symbols—watches, cars, clothing, brands
  • Want to be first o make decisions in a group—leading the charge
  • Latest moel of mobile phone or computers
 
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OUTWARD INDICATORS OF THE NEED FOR SIGNIFICANCE

To help me remember all 12 outward indicators of individuals driven by the need for significance, let me start with the most obvious…
  1. "Obvious wealth indicators"
  2. Closely related to that would be: "openly conveying wealth"
  3. Sticking with the wealth concept, also closely related is: "status symbols—watches, cars, clothing, brands (bccw: brands, cars, clothing, watches)
  4. And kind of related to status is the desire to own the latest version of stuff, such as: "latest model of mobile phone for computers"
  5. Still within this realm of show-off is: "showing musculature"
  6. I imagine that might include: "clothing showing musculature"
  7. Then there is: "showing cleavage"
  8. To show what a great person one is, there's: "contributions to a cause on bumper stickers, shirts, or bangs" (bssb)
  9. Since "other things to stand out" was the last item on my list, there must be "something to stand out" T[that came before this. It is…
  10. "Novel and distinctive facial hair"
  11. The braggart will want to: "focus conversations on themselves."
  12. And since that covers show off, maverick, and braggart, I'm not sure how this final item fits, which is: "wants to be the first to make decisions in a group—leading the charge"
I categorize them this way...
  1. Material
  2. Material
  3. Material
  4. Material
  5. Physical
  6. Physical
  7. Physical
  8. Internal
  9. External
  10. External
  11. Group
  12. Group
 
The next human need Chase Hughes describes is The Need for Approval/Recognition.

Such needs are looking for permission and recognition.

However, in my mind, looking for recognition is too much like looking for significance for me to conceptualize these as two separate categories. Consequently, I am simply going to think of this next one as the need for approval.

Chase says that these folks will typically make comments that are self-deprecating in order to hear someone offer approval in return. You might hear something like, "I don't really know if I should play you. I suck at chess!" They say this in order to hear something along the lines of, "No you're not. You're one of the best chess players I know. You just need to learn to believe in yourself."

These people are looking for permission and are looking for the kind of "recognition" that allows them to move forward with confidence.
 
Chase calls the third primary human need "acceptance." However, it's difficult for me to cleanly separate this one from the previous one, given that I feel I see many people who struggle for approval in an effort to gain acceptance.

Hughes goes on to state that the acceptance-needs people he speaks of are concerned with membership, groups, tribes, teams, and connections.

I will therefore attempt to keep all of this straight in my own head by conceptualizing the first primary need as "recognition," the second as " affirmation," and the last as "membership."
 
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