Quote from Rearden Metal:we both suffer from an identical flaw; Taking trades we know we shouldn't.
And that is the answer we must give ourselves when we ponder why we are not as successful as we would be without this flaw. While penury is likely not in your future, it must become eventually suffocating to live with the consequences of this self imposed issue knowing that the solution was always available with a little more effort and willpower. What will be your catalyst for change?
Quote from Rearden Metal:
When the idea for UVXY (and every other trade posted here) came to me, I got this special warm fuzzy feeling about the trade- I just <b><i>knew</b></i> the trade was rock solid. If only I had the discipline to watch the market inactively while waiting around for those occasional 'warm fuzzy', very high-confidence ideas, I'd have probably surpassed entry level rich a long time ago.
Snap.
I now understand what you were trying to communicate to me in your emails, which I was too thick headed to recognise the first second and third time!
I get those warm fuzzy feelings too. Almost never take any heat on those signals. My strike rate for those subset of trades is massively greater than the others. I believe that with enough practice, effort, and understanding the majority of trades could eventually be "warm fuzzy" trades. That was my plan all along but I wasn't sufficiently diligent and disciplined in sticking to it. Instead I like to think I'm cleverer than I am and play where there isn't sufficient opportunity or clarity, or where I'm not skilled enough to use the opportunities (fast markets etc) and would be best staying out. This one flaw has cost me well into the seven figures. The worst aspect of this is when you tolerate, or give permission to some degree, because you are only giving back profits you have made in other markets. Money is money and this sort of mental accounting and rationalisations does nothing to kill the problem. I've concealed cumulatively millions worth of "losses" in this way.
Hubris, complacency, lapses of discipline, inattention to detail...I sometimes wonder if some of us suffer from...how to put it...some sort of mental block against a bigger level of success, which results in forms of self sabotage (what else would you call this issue)?
This is why I was interested in garachen's contributions to the other thread, moving up into different categories of wealth/income generation, and the barriers which must be overcome to "move up" to the next level. Unfortunately the peanut gallery, who are dreadful bores, derailed the discussion.
I hope you have the personal realisations necessary to overcome this debilitating problem. I think the solution may be similar for others similarly afflicted, but the process to discover it will be unique to the individual. Whatever the solution, I believe such crutches as workplace discipline, being in the company of other or more successful people (eg. at a top firm etc) can be massively helpful in raising your game. However, these are crutches, and the goal is to improve yourself to where you do not need them. It takes a special sort of person to be able to generate consistent energy,motivation, etc working from home. But we mustn't use the difficulty as an excuse to stop trying or for failing to achieve the goals we set for ourselves.
When our day is over, only we know whether we truly did everything we could to advance our personal growth and progress towards our goals. No use lying to ourselves. We will live with the consequences of our decisions. No wonder many or most avoid, blame, deny, etc.
This problem ranks below not having a +ev strategy, being unable to pull the trigger, quitting when ahead for the day...but its still pretty high on the list of "things you can do to yourself to stop you getting where you want to go".