Quote from Tsing Tao:
oh really?
let me tell you a bit about my recent history. i'll try to be as exact as possible without giving away personal information.
i am married, have one child. he will be three in march. i am turning 40 next year. i worked for a large pharma/cpg company up until march of 2008, where i left to take another position with what i thought to be a great company in a position that was a promotion. my son was just born - in fact i accepted the offer call when my wife had just given birth and i was still in the hospital.
we had also, 9 months prior, purchased a house in northern nj for about $675,000, but no worried. we put a good portion down and though the mortgage was expensive, we could afford it and i had a good job.
after being with this company two months, i realized i had made a mistake. my boss was screwing the company for all it was worth and i was being pushed in the direction to change numbers. rather than sign to the 10-k statements saying i approved what i knew to be false numbers, i resigned at the end of september of 08. in october, the market fell out and everything went south. my investments were hammered and the country officially went into recession. all hiring stopped (especially in my field) as companies waited to see if the end of the world would truly come.
i freaked out. i had a newborn, a large house and a payment to make. i had 26 weeks of unemployment, the amount the government was giving me didnt cover the mortgage. i had savings, but not a massive amount. probably could last me a year. rather than sit on my tuffet, i hit the streets hard. used up all my contacts, but couldn't find anything. two months later, i got a call from a recruiter in my network and asked me about a job, but the relo policy was lacking. they wouldnt do the house buyout (which was typical in my position and level).
i accepted. in the end i took over one hundred thousand dollars in equity loss, not to mention the expenses in the process, because i knew this was a right change. it was really tough to accept.
but i bettered my position in the end, downsized my house to a townhouse, and we live happily ever after. but i busted my ass and took substantial financial losses to get where i had to in order to get a job.
so please, take your assumptions of what i am and what i know and stick 'em where the maple syrup flows, gabby. i am fiscally responsible enough to be a master of my own destiny, and i ACCEPT the losses that come from my decisions. the government does not have to bail me out, because i bust my ass. not to mention the schooling i had to pay for out of my pocket to get to where i am today. no one helped me.