May be I can give an example ( very exreme), few stuff changed, but you will get an idea.
One guy who was heavy drug user and all his siblings were heavy drug users too.
- how did you ( mum, dad) meet ?
dad : at a bal
mum : I asked my friend to bring him to a party because I fancied him
- what were your situations and issues when you met ?
dad : he actually had to get married to the mum because she fell pregnant
and he was from a "good" family.
the woman he really loved and wanted to get married to actually died
of cancer the day he married the mum.
mum: I knew he wanted her, but I got him.
- what were the problems in your relationship when you were together
up to my age 4-5 years old?
dad : nothing. I worked, paid all the bills. I just loved alcohol, like my own dad.
Intoxicants are in the family.
mum: he never seemed happy. He never shouted, but he never wanted to do anything.
- did you love each other or were you in co-dependent
stuff playing out your psychological/spiritual issues ?
dad : I did the right thing
mum: I loved your dad
- how was I conceived ( was the sex between you actually wanted ? were there issues there? ...)
dad : most of the time, I had drunk
mum : he was a good provider, so I did my "duty"
- was I actually wanted, expected before I was conceived ?
dad : I cried when I saw you ... I never wanted to have kids ( after probing : with your mum)
mum: I wanted a large family
- what psychological/spiritual family baggage do I carry from you?
dad : substance abuse. Your grandad died young from alcoholism,
I will also die young from alcoholism. All of you are into intoxicants.
This is in the family
- what were the main things you transmitted to me from
conception till say 4-5 years old ?
I always felt depressed , not wanted to live, very sad.
You need to look to everything when working on your psychology/spirituality.
The family is most often than not, the real issue/cause.
Not really what happened when you are adults : this is just playing the same
childhood tune.
One guy who was heavy drug user and all his siblings were heavy drug users too.
- how did you ( mum, dad) meet ?
dad : at a bal
mum : I asked my friend to bring him to a party because I fancied him
- what were your situations and issues when you met ?
dad : he actually had to get married to the mum because she fell pregnant
and he was from a "good" family.
the woman he really loved and wanted to get married to actually died
of cancer the day he married the mum.
mum: I knew he wanted her, but I got him.
- what were the problems in your relationship when you were together
up to my age 4-5 years old?
dad : nothing. I worked, paid all the bills. I just loved alcohol, like my own dad.
Intoxicants are in the family.
mum: he never seemed happy. He never shouted, but he never wanted to do anything.
- did you love each other or were you in co-dependent
stuff playing out your psychological/spiritual issues ?
dad : I did the right thing
mum: I loved your dad
- how was I conceived ( was the sex between you actually wanted ? were there issues there? ...)
dad : most of the time, I had drunk
mum : he was a good provider, so I did my "duty"
- was I actually wanted, expected before I was conceived ?
dad : I cried when I saw you ... I never wanted to have kids ( after probing : with your mum)
mum: I wanted a large family
- what psychological/spiritual family baggage do I carry from you?
dad : substance abuse. Your grandad died young from alcoholism,
I will also die young from alcoholism. All of you are into intoxicants.
This is in the family
- what were the main things you transmitted to me from
conception till say 4-5 years old ?
I always felt depressed , not wanted to live, very sad.
You need to look to everything when working on your psychology/spirituality.
The family is most often than not, the real issue/cause.
Not really what happened when you are adults : this is just playing the same
childhood tune.