Quote from makloda:
In a recent study behavioral theorist Amos Tversky asked: âWhere and how would you rather live: Would you rather be rich living in a poor country, such as Bangladesh, or be poor and live in a rich country such as the USAâ. Most respondents said they would rather be rich and live in a poor country, than be poor and live in a rich country. Tvesrky concludes: âFor most people their relative standing in a community is a more important determinant of their happiness than their absolute standingâ. In other words it seems peopleâs happiness depends upon their impression of where they stand relative to some standard or goal.
I nominate this as the most profound, but at the same time obvious (it is analogous to rather be a big fish in a small pond, then a small fish in a big pond) ever stated on ET. Imo, it explains probably 85% of human psychology.
BTW, the American Dream is sold the world over by showing people how much more they have here than anywhere else. Most people "fall" for it. What they don't show you is what you give up to be "middle class", and many imigrants regret their imigration. It is too late by the time they figure it out (too old, children here, etc). The real progress comes to their offspring, and probably not until second or third generations when they have figured it out.
The cultures that do well in the modern US are the ones that are ancient like the Jews and the Chinese (although the railroad workers from China might disagree), where there is a strong tradition of passing down wisdom to their children from generation to generation, imo. The rest figure it out the hard way.