A couple of things I need to make note of for myself:
I keep failing to 'game' women that I come into contact with on a daily basis. I think it's just habbit that prevents me from talking to girls I see every day and I find attractive. I also find myself worrying about what others think if I approach a woman. I often feel I'm not dressed correctly, or shouldn't because of reason X.
One of my other problems is I feel like I'm inadequate. Don't have enought money, the best clothes, the best appartment, etc... Sometimes, I have to spend a lot of energy convincing myself that I'm entitled.
Even though I can rationalize and have actual statistics to back up how idiotic the two things above are, I still do them... I think over time my inner AFC will die... Hopefully reminding myself will kill him: Graduated 1 of 4 Summa Cum Laude in my college program, earn ~$50k a year, top 15% of AF fitness standards, many compliments from women about looks (usually not ones im interested in). This is why such a huge part of game is mental. Impossible to succeed if I put myself down.
I remember, of the girls that I could tell that liked me in college, I would introduce myself usually in some random method. I opened one girl by offering her some study materials. I studied with her, went out in a group a couple of times with her and eventually was one on one with her in her dorm room. I was too stupid to read the signs. Later on she admitted she liked me. I never said or did anything to show I was interested in her....
Another young woman I started speaking spanish with in a computer lounge in our university's cafeteria. After introducing myself, I basically ignored her. She came over to me to talk a few times, but after I got to know her I wasn't interested in her any more. Don't know if she really liked me but it was possible.
Another girl introduced herself to me, said "hi" to me every time we saw each other, and I eventually ignored her. I think she gave up after that as I showed no interest in her and never talked to her. Again, how stupid of me.
I recently went out to a few places around the city. The river walk, chunky's burgers, flying saucer, sea world, the falls (nightclub) and taco taco. It's hard to game when you have a friend that's in town for a short time and you want to hang out with him. Insert lame excuse here.
I don't see many options when I go out around here. The women I notice are either draging a child behind them or being gropped by some guy. Sea world is apparently the spot to bring your child. Never going there agian unless its with a friend/group.
I opened a 3 set at the river walk, but wasn't really interested in the girl. Just made a couple of remarks about how it looked like the people outside were getting drenched by the mist coming out of the building. There was really no excuse for not gaming. In this case she was working. Not much of an excuse.
My friend and I were the only 2 in Chunky's burgers for a good while. We did a good job of talking to the women that were working there. However, we didn't attempt to close any of them. We had serveral opportunities and nothing to lose. I'm quickly finding out you don't have any better of an opportunity than this.
The flying saucer was pretty lame. It seemed that most people there were in their own social groups/couples. I'm not one of those guys that really wants to entertain or intrude on a bunch of people. Everyone is sitting at a table with friends or at the bar talking with someone. If I get desperate enough I might start injecting myself into these groups. My friend and I didn't talk with anyone at the flying saucer.
I joined my friend and his cousin/husband at sea world. Like I said, I saw families there. It would have felt very awkward attempting to game females here. I probably am thinking to much. I should have just opened people for practice. It's difficult to do though if you don't want to lose your group or if you truly trying to spend time with a good male friend.
We went out to the falls this past Saturday. We got there around 10:45 pm and the croud was lame at the main bar, and there was no one at the dance floor.. I know that clubs don't usually fill up till later on in the night here. It took me a while to warm up. I was determined not to drink becuase alcohol slows me down too much if I'm trying to game. After I had been dancing on the floor for a while, I opened a two set my friend pointed out (over the shoulder). I opened with "Are you trying to text me?," as the girl I spoke to had her phone out. She looked at me then looked back at her phone. I think I followed with "You guys know this is a dance club right?" and asked why they weren't dancing. They replied it was too cold. So I said, "you know if you go out there and start moving around you will warm up.... movement gets blood circulating." They got a good laugh at that and just looked at me. They didn't move, and said nothing back. So I said, "No?" in the context of, do you understand? And they just giggled .... so I walked away.
The crowd was skim pickings for sure. When they started playing some line dances I went out and started making a fool of myself as I didn't know several of them. But who cares, I did my own thing, and mixed it up. I think I have good rhythm when I get warmed up. I was a huge idiot and saw many girls checking me out but I still just did my own thing. It would be easy to open them. Soon my buddy started dancing with some girl that was ok looking. I saw this guy staring so hard at my friend, it creeped me out... I eventually ended up dancing (grinding) with this tall black girl after gaming her a bit. My comments threw her off as I opened with "Are you trying to dance with me?" after the second/third time her friend and her came over and danced near me. She stopped dancing while I continued. She made some remark like "Am I dancing with you?" But I wasn't about to fail a shit test or show weak frame. I replied "I'm dancing, but you aren't" or something like that. So she started dancing again. I played very cocky game and said to her freind, "I think your friend likes me." So we grinded for a little bit and talked. I put my hand on her hips and prickly hair... it was kinda gross, but no big deal to a big player like me. I made her laugh. That's what is important.
The place seemingly completely changed after this event happened. This guy was standing there watching the girl and I dance.... later when they started playing line dancing music agian, he came over, put his arm around me (not homosexually), and tried to help me learn line dancing. While I was line dancing, I got slight kino from this girl dressed in a white and black tiger striped dress. She was trying to help me dance. I hadn't even talked to tiger dress. After busting a few more moves, my wing and I called it quits.
Before we left, my friend saw the girl he was dancing with making out with some bald guy, and I saw the girl that danced with me with some giant odd looking black man. I couldn't really care less lol....
All in all I had a blast. I opened a few sets, but I never focused on getting a number. I really wasn't feeling any of the girls I talked to. It's pretty much just another lame excuse not to act. I'm close to just asking for everyone's number just for practice.
I guess I shouldn't let guys or anything else (except children) deter me. Truly u never know who the guy is, how old they are or if the child is actually theirs.
