Much ado about nothing. So what if she was told in 2002? Was she speaker of the house in 2002? No. Was she majority leader? No. Was she minority leader? No. She was minority whip in 2002 (she was also a ranking member of the intelligence committe)
In 2002 the country was insane, W became some kind of magical hero and realistically he got anything he wanted, even if she wanted to object, it would have fallen on deaf ears and she would be immediately labeled as "helping the terrorists" win. Democrats got smoked in 2002&2004 congressional elections precisely because people believed republicans were "tougher on terrorism". It is a laughable assertion but back then (and even some now) people genuinely believed in that crap.
Many democrats did not object to a lot of things in 2002 not because they did not feel otherwise but because the political climate in the country was insane and irrational.