Coach:
How's everything going?
Me:
I called almost every swing right this week and emailed it to my backer. Unfortunately, I haven't heard anything from this individual which concerns me. I am not getting as much communication as I would like. So, I'm hoping this will work but realistic that it may not.
You know sometimes: I'm thinking about how can I find another backer (in case I don't get get this funding) and how can I meet my goals. I find myself clicking on google news and it burns me up. I'm reading the news.
Coach:
Right, it is behavioral coping strategy. You have a stimuli which is the anxiety and your conditioned response is to read or click on news. This helps to temporarily reduce the anxiety because when the brain is taking in more information then obviously it can't process the problem. And, more information also can confuse the mind, temporarily, it can basically overload it so that it doesn't function as well. Ironically, the behavioral pattern is both counter productive and yet easily reinforced.
Me:
Exactly. You know Mike Bella at SMB Capital wrote one of the most ridiculous posts I've read yet which talked about how yelling at a trader was a good coaching tactic. What I've seen is that yelling tends to be an anxiety relieving process for the yeller more then an effective communication tool. Honestly, the best way to get a behavior one desires is to focus on what you desire and nothing else. It is just that absolute focus without emotional noise which from what I've seen works the best. These principals of behavioral modification of directness work wonders actually in achieving both what one desires with harmony and minimal stress. If you want your dog to go outside and he doesn't listen then don't yell at him. Instead, gently take him by the collar and lead him outside.
Coach:
And, I agree that directness is virtue. If you want to limit risk to $1000 per day then program that into the system. Getting what one wants by focusing on what wants is the most effective and direct way to influence change.
How do you intend to use these principals in achieving your own success?
Me:
Well, obviously I need to be more direct in terms of defining and focusing on my goals. I'm going to be more aware when I'm engaging in non productive coping actions. I will focus on the types of behavior, you know directly versus analyzing the psychology. Certain I feel that I'm lacking that directness and that focus that I need -- required for success.
Coach:
And to get that directness and focus then I'm going to encourage you continue to work on getting health, stamina, and physical strength aligned. Everything starts with physical health. You need that physical health and you must take it. Take it for everything that it is worth. Capture and use that single minded focus to burn through these temporary problems. It will happen.
How's everything going?
Me:
I called almost every swing right this week and emailed it to my backer. Unfortunately, I haven't heard anything from this individual which concerns me. I am not getting as much communication as I would like. So, I'm hoping this will work but realistic that it may not.
You know sometimes: I'm thinking about how can I find another backer (in case I don't get get this funding) and how can I meet my goals. I find myself clicking on google news and it burns me up. I'm reading the news.
Coach:
Right, it is behavioral coping strategy. You have a stimuli which is the anxiety and your conditioned response is to read or click on news. This helps to temporarily reduce the anxiety because when the brain is taking in more information then obviously it can't process the problem. And, more information also can confuse the mind, temporarily, it can basically overload it so that it doesn't function as well. Ironically, the behavioral pattern is both counter productive and yet easily reinforced.
Me:
Exactly. You know Mike Bella at SMB Capital wrote one of the most ridiculous posts I've read yet which talked about how yelling at a trader was a good coaching tactic. What I've seen is that yelling tends to be an anxiety relieving process for the yeller more then an effective communication tool. Honestly, the best way to get a behavior one desires is to focus on what you desire and nothing else. It is just that absolute focus without emotional noise which from what I've seen works the best. These principals of behavioral modification of directness work wonders actually in achieving both what one desires with harmony and minimal stress. If you want your dog to go outside and he doesn't listen then don't yell at him. Instead, gently take him by the collar and lead him outside.
Coach:
And, I agree that directness is virtue. If you want to limit risk to $1000 per day then program that into the system. Getting what one wants by focusing on what wants is the most effective and direct way to influence change.
How do you intend to use these principals in achieving your own success?
Me:
Well, obviously I need to be more direct in terms of defining and focusing on my goals. I'm going to be more aware when I'm engaging in non productive coping actions. I will focus on the types of behavior, you know directly versus analyzing the psychology. Certain I feel that I'm lacking that directness and that focus that I need -- required for success.
Coach:
And to get that directness and focus then I'm going to encourage you continue to work on getting health, stamina, and physical strength aligned. Everything starts with physical health. You need that physical health and you must take it. Take it for everything that it is worth. Capture and use that single minded focus to burn through these temporary problems. It will happen.