Let me just say that I support a Churches right to sanction marriage for whomever they wish.
I also support the right of the government to tax the shit out of the churches that practice discrimination against people on the basis of sex, gender, race, ethnicity, etc.
Let the Churches have it their way and make them pay their fair share of taxes when they deny gays the right to marry in their religion.
Most gays aren't looking for religious sanctioned marriages, they are looking for the state to grant them equal access and equal rights to marry, which of course is their constitutional right.
If it were not the constitutional right of gays to marry, then there would be no talk by the religions homophobes of a constitutional amendment to prevent gays from marrying.
Separation of Church and State. Gays should be able to marry according to a constitutional concept of basic human rights and a doctrine of fairness for all Americans, and Churches should be able to determine who they will sanction to marry in their Churches..
If the Churches don't want to allow gays to marry in their religion, then they pay taxes. End of story. Put the Churches to a choice: Allow gay marriage or pay taxes. Now what do you think they would do?
The gays who want some Church to recognize their marriage will just have to get over it.
Henry the VIII wanted a divorce and the "Holy" Roman Catholic Church would not sanction it.
So he said "Fuck you" to the Catholic Church, got his divorce, and began a new religion of his own making...