Quote from harrytrader:
I said "never again"
And now I am only focused on risk not on gain. Trying not to lose is better than trying to win, and by moving to this approach you should better climb the hill of success.
I completely agree with focusing on risk.
In Art of War, it suggest you fight a war that you can't lose. If you try to win you are causing your strategy to be frigid and in war you want to be flexible.
In any board games, Othello which is my specialty, you try to put stones where you are safe and place stones so that they can't take advantage. You wait till the opponent makes a mistake then you take advantage of the other's mistake and lead him into his defeat. Even if the person doesn't make a mistake for a long time, it is still in a favorable spot because you are not losing. Still, there are skills involved identifying the smallest mistake they make.
In fights, you have to fight to protect yourself. You have to protect your life. When you are in a fight, you have to make sure to have a way to run away just in case the other person is stronger. If you fight in a house, you have to keep an exit ready, like an open window or a door behind you. In a fight outside, you make sure you have you're not surrounded 360 degree.
In Aikido, you position yourself into the other's blind spot while controlling the other through controlling joints, it's the same in grappling like Gracie Ju-jitsu. You control others through positioning yourself to a less risky position while controlling and limiting the other movements. It will cause you to be limited but soon the other person will attempt to change his position which causes him to open an weak spot during the transition. This is where you take advantage of. As with boardgames, you also need skills to identify and take advantage of the oppurtunity.