Men, Women, Divorce, and Trading in 2012

Should I get Married?

  • Yes

    Votes: 11 16.4%

  • No

    Votes: 56 83.6%
  • Total voters
    67
Quote from achilles28:

Good for you and congratulations. Addiction is common, these days. I used drugs in my teens and twenties to escape anxiety. Kicked the drugs and found a new addiction - work. At least it's productive. Escapism is a powerful thing. Going back to revisit old wounds and pain is difficult, and difficult to resolve. Maybe time heals everything? I'm 34, too, so I don't know. That's my sad story for this thread ;)
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yeah... i did the whole AA thing.. went to meetings everyday for almost the first ten years of my sobriety... Met money manages.. street people.. human traffickers(haha this guy is my best friend.. sober five years now).. sponsored a guy who was on Americas most wanted.. met so many cool people... going through the 12 steps as gay as it sounds.. helps you realize who you are at a deeper level.. i just thought i was gonna lose my gangster if i quite the sauce.. haha thats cool... i'm trying as hard as i can to get this trading thing.. ive tried all kinds of businesses... retail (skateboard shop) .. started manufacturing decks and distributing htem online.. but mainly my stuides were in horticulture and i've been fixing irrigation systems and the like for like 13 years now.. never worked for a corporation i didn't own.. except publix at 15 but either way thats nothing to brag about.. owning a business owns you.. your customers own you at times... back in school now.. taking satistics believe it or not.. haha if i don't get an A in this.. i should hang trading up... All i read about is probability distros/ stat arb.. pairs trading.. options and more options.. futures spreading.. etc. etc.. on and on and on and on.. be surprised how many books and hours of reading digging trenches with mexicans for 13 years will get ya reading.. but on the real... i've found happyness man.. i was just always looking outside of myself for it before..
 
Quote from achilles28:

How the phuck do you handle your daughter being a drug addict? Serious question...
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Tricky to answer this without giving the wrong impression as cannot be answered in a paragraph.
But when your wife, kids and church disown you because your wife (ex) lies about you, then in order to survive you have to harden the fuck up. I've lost my family and church (losing church being a good thing), so I've written them off basically, when people have a chip on their shoulder there is nothing you can do about it.
My theory is, there's a billion people in the world, if my family won't accept me, someone else will, so i move in their direction and away from the other.
I have some self esteem left as my ex wife disowned her brother's family at the same time as they was sticking up for me, so she cut off her nose to spite her face. They are part of my extended family.
But to answer your question, I don't know my daughter.
 
Quote from themickey:

Tricky to answer this without giving the wrong impression as cannot be answered in a paragraph.
But when your wife, kids and church disown you because your wife (ex) lies about you, then in order to survive you have to harden the fuck up. I've lost my family and church (losing church being a good thing), so I've written them off basically, when people have a chip on their shoulder there is nothing you can do about it.
My theory is, there's a billion people in the world, if my family won't accept me, someone else will, so i move in their direction and away from the other.
I have some self esteem left as my ex wife disowned her brother's family at the same time as they was sticking up for me, so she cut off her nose to spite her face. They are part of my extended family.
But to answer your question, I don't know my daughter.
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That sucks dude.....
 
When relationships turn to shit they just turn to shit and not much can be done to revive them.
It's the ones with good history under the belt which have a chance of survival if people are prepared to work at it and let bygones be.
But if the road had been rocky for what ever reason for some time, there is not a lot of hope imo. Too much negative history.
There comes a tipping point.
I've discovered it's the people who wish to wield power over others who are usually the biggest manipulators, liars, control freaks and problematic. They are also usually the most charismatic and therein lies the danger of being continually fooled by them. I keep out of their way.
Charismatic people are that way often as it is their tool of successful survival, but humans seem hard wired to fall for this time and again.
It's only when you have been in 'bed' with them for some while that you recognize their nasty side coming out, and if your life is intermingled with them it is extremely difficult to get out of the honey trap.
 
Quote from jinxu:

Hey all,

I'm a long time trade and I'm getting married soon to mid twenty girl I've been seeing for about a year. We're deeply in love and she said she's completely okay with me staying at home trading for a living. But I have my doubt and worry sometime if she's a gold digger.

What are anyone's thought, tips, and advice on marriage? Am I looking ahead to good times or bad times?
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Took me 5 years to feel comfortable with The woman I married. why rush in to it? If she puts up and ultimatum - walk
 
Quote from themickey:

then in order to survive you have to harden the fuck up.
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I agree...






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Quote from heech:

You guys crack me up.

Anyways... I've been married for 6 years, and we dated 5 years prior to that. We have 2 kids. I make 7 digits a year from trading, and she makes 6 digits a year as a physician. I didn't sign a prenup, although we did discuss it at the time (since I brought in a lot more assets than she did).

We are having a blast. Things aren't always perfect, but having a family is one of the best things to have ever happened to me. She's a great partner in life, and I can honestly say I look forward to the next 50 years of my life with her next to me.... Much rather that than being one of those 50 yr olds with a fake tan and a comb over trying to hit on the waitress.
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Hmm, a likely story.. don't tell me, you make a steady 1-2% every day? :) Forgive my cynicism but this <i>is</i> ET
 
Quote from Zr1Trader:

I agree...






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i like that...
 
YES, MARRY HER!!!

Listen, this is one of your biggest paydays of your life. either hers or yours.....so get married and let the fun begin.

after 10 years in most states the "winner" will get 50%...

if she doesn't work and you do...well, she will get palimony or alimony or whatever for years after you decided you really hate her.

and after marriage, then you will will really hate each other when divorced. more hatred than you thought possible...so i've heard, and it makes me laugh.

hopefully she has a few kids very soon...then you are doomed for about 3,000 a month for the kids.....and way more in other stuff.

and then she will stop with the sex.....that i'm 90% certain of.

so yes, throw your life away at such a young age...

thanks for playing

hope one of you cheats!!!
 
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