Men, Women, Divorce, and Trading in 2012

Should I get Married?

  • Yes

    Votes: 11 16.4%
  • No

    Votes: 56 83.6%

  • Total voters
    67
Quote from oldtime:

I started trading full time when my 3 kids were in grade school and didn't blow up until 2 of them were in college, no problem. I drove them to soccer practice, choir practice, ballet, never missed a softball game, saw plenty of school plays. I started as a broker and my wife never really knew I was an independent trader because I still put a suit and tie on each day and traded out of my old office.



It would have been a good move for me to continue to go to the office.
 
Quote from jinxu:

yeah, I'm aware of the "jinx" in the username. But what's that got to do with anything. What I'm really worry about is how much power can a wife really have with her husband? It's not like she can take everything in divorce. I'm a fighter and I can fight to get custody of the children if need be.

I know my fiance will keep giving me regular sex once we move in together and she's more then willing to do her share of the housework. What's the chance that we're gonna get divorce anyways. We're better then that 50% fail rate.

And beside what's the WORST that can really happen if we get divorce? We split and just go our separate ways. That's just like in trading when dealing with a loss.
You don't know shit about women do you?


Get married, you'll find out.
 
Quote from Random.Capital:

If you want to make that choice, then make that choice.

But it is an abdication of responsibility by every measure that makes us human, plain and simple.

It is also extremely short sighted, as familial groups (tribes, if you like) are far stronger than individuals.
If I am king of the tribe, I'm not really sure I want my warriors who I have to place in high risk situations on the front lines to be happily married with children. That can come later.
 
Quote from themickey:


In my opinion, trading suits single people, for marrieds there is too much stress and energy involved as well as emotions for those trading at their keyboards. Trading fills my day and it fills my night, by day at the computer, by night in my thinking and planning.
With having a girlfriend, you can get away and have space, nigh on impossible in marriage, unless as mentioned, she was very much pro trading which would be a rare event.

I agree 100% with this.
 
I've had two women give me the flick because I wanted to stay home over a weekend working on system design rather than see them.
Granted I didn't give them a lot of notice but we had nothing planned much anyway.
Both thought I was having an affair, both couldn't comprehend that my design work was more important than spending time living a domestic life with them over a weekend.
Anyhow, was no loss as I never intended going the distance with either and picking up a new women has never been an issue.
But the bottom line is, often with women it's their way or the highway. I suppose better they do it to me than me do it to them, don't like breaking hearts, whereas mine has become a bit calloused since my wife gave me the flick many years ago in preference for the pastor of our church. I wish her well.
 
Quote from opt789:

First off, if you are asking these questions in a forum populated primarily by young, inexperienced (in trading and life), misogynists then clearly you have no business getting married or having children. I don't claim to make triple digit returns but I do make a living trading, and you know how many people on the planet care about that accomplishment? Exactly none. I don't produce anything, I don't help anyone or anything, or truly contribute anything to society. There is nothing wrong with trading or a long list of professions that have little social value, but don't kid yourself that we matter. On a scale from 1 to a billion on how important or meaningful things are in this brief blink of time we call life, your trading returns are a .01, and I don't consider that a hyperbole. Spending your life with someone who you actually care about and makes you happy, and having and raising good children are worthwhile accomplishments that few achieve. Chances are in a few hundred years no one will remember you or anything you ever did, said, wrote, or accomplished. No one will care, you may have well not even existed. If you do the one thing that is ludicrously harder than being a successful trader - being a good parent and teaching your children how to be good parents to perpetuate the cycle - then you just may have influenced future generations ad infinitum.
' Exactly none. I don't produce anything, I don't help anyone or anything, or truly contribute anything to society. There is nothing wrong with trading or a long list of professions that have little social value, but don't kid yourself that we matter"

every communist and every socialist + obama would agree with you. my suggestion to you is get an education in the basics of capitalism and the purpose of free markets.
 
we matter because if everybody stopped trading, houses would become vacant, cars would be repossessd and waitresses would stop getting big tips.
 
It’s our job to make money. Whether it’s a commodity, stock, bond, or some hypothetical piece of fake paper, it doesn’t matter. We would trade baseball cards if it were profitable. I didn’t hear America complaining when the market was roaring to 14,000 and everyone’s 401k doubled every 3 years. Just like gambling, its not a problem until you lose. I’ve never heard of anyone going to Gamblers Anonymous because they won too much in Vegas.

Well now the market crapped out, & even though it has come back somewhat, the government and the average Joes are still looking for a scapegoat. God knows there has to be one for everything. Well, here we are.

Go ahead and continue to take us down, but you’re only going to hurt yourselves. What’s going to happen when we can’t find jobs on the Street anymore? Guess what: We’re going to take yours. We get up at 5am & work till 10pm or later. We’re used to not getting up to pee when we have a position. We don’t take an hour or more for a lunch break. We don’t demand a union. We don’t retire at 50 with a pension. We eat what we kill, and when the only thing left to eat is on your dinner plates, we’ll eat that.

For years teachers and other unionized labor have had us fooled. We were too busy working to notice. Do you really think that we are incapable of teaching 3rd graders and doing landscaping? We’re going to take your cushy jobs with tenure and 4 months off a year and whine just like you that we are so-o-o-o underpaid for building the youth of America. Say goodbye to your overtime and double time and a half. I’ll be hitting grounders to the high school baseball team for $5k extra a summer, thank you very much.

So now that we’re going to be making $85k a year without upside, Joe Mainstreet is going to have his revenge, right? Wrong! Guess what: we’re going to stop buying the new 80k car, we aren’t going to leave the 35 percent tip at our business dinners anymore. No more free rides on our backs. We’re going to landscape our own back yards, wash our cars with a garden hose in our driveways. Our money was your money. You spent it. When our money dries up, so does yours.

The difference is, you lived off of it, we rejoiced in it. The Obama administration and the Democratic National Committee might get their way and knock us off the top of the pyramid, but it’s really going to hurt like hell for them when our fat a**es land directly on the middle class of America and knock them to the bottom.

We aren’t dinosaurs. We are smarter and more vicious than that, and we are going to survive. The question is, now that Obama & his administration are making Joe Mainstreet our food supply…will he? and will they?”
 
Quote from zdreg:

' Exactly none. I don't produce anything, I don't help anyone or anything, or truly contribute anything to society.

A somewhat philosophical problem. Take Coke for example, yes they produce something and "contribute" in the traditional economic sense but overall, they're actually making life worse via diabetes and all that energy, pollution from bottling/canning.

Sometimes not being productive is better for society than being productive.
 
there's actually very good evidence that not all dinasaurs became extinct. Many of them evolved into ostriches.

Next time I go broke, the first thing I am going to do is apply for government assistence. My days of working are over. I have no marketable skills and am too old for manual labor. The only thing I am any good at is trading.

I have three beautiful children, and even though I am divorced, they still think of me as a father. But I consoder the whole thing to have been one great failure. A good father can somehow hold a family together. I guess that's why they say it takes two.

In retrospect, I was probably one of those guys that never really was cut out to be a husband. We should have known that, because when I got married I was just a musician playing in a band.
 
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