Marriage, just don't

Quote from BSAM:

But we have a life.:p
only if there are mothers,a woman's 1st objective is to herself and children,and we play a part in that scenario, a fair honest woman is just as hard for us to find as it is for them to find a man of same,this is a sad thread
 
Quote from nitro:

I have nothing more to add. The only problem is, we all think we are winners. :D

All kidding aside, people change, and then love fades. Then when children are involved, it puts a huge burden on both people financially if they split up, and then blame the idea that they wanted to be with each other forever. If you don't respect the other person, it is a huge obstacle to overcome. So don't marry if you don't respect the person. Don't believe all the myths. Plenty of women don't care about your income, just that you respect yourself are happy with your career choice.

The critical thing imo is to be intellectually compatible with the woman you are with. It is no guarantee, but if you enjoy her company and have similar morals and ethics, it can weather the ups and downs better.

Be nice to each other. Forgive, or have a really short term memory. Think before you say things. Never make each other insecure. Make sure you spend at least part of the month with each other away from kids to reconnect. Still, no guarantees. Never believe that you own her/him. Always believe that s/he might not be there tomorrow. That way each day you are motivated to do little things for each other here and there.

Taking a course on psychology together, and even neuroscience, can also help in understanding when something goes bad. Some people don't need this, others it helps. Growing together in some way is important. You are both dynamic, and environment is part of what shapes personality and values.

If you do decide to open your heart to someone, risk it all emotionally. That way, you will choose wisely. If it doesn't work, I guarantee you will learn something about yourself. Dust yourself off, and allow your heart to mend, so that if by chance luck smiles on you again...Never hold a grudge, even if the other person wronged you.

My GF says something that always makes me fall in love with her, "Thanks for being you". If you mean it, try it.

Great advice.
 
Quote from riskaddict:

Wow after reading a few pages of this I think the Muslims may have had it right all along.

Thats what i am saying.

at least they havent that kind of problems, but their societies arent perfect either...

equal right for woman and man are a must have, but extreme feminism toghether with capitalizm, is a very bad mix.

In islamic societies the man is the king of the world as truly son of god and he is threathed like this - thats not perfect, but its better than nothing.:p

To change to islam, will change nothing, as long you do not live in their society. But feminism is also strong in coming in some islamic countries which are strong influenced by the west, for example Turkey.

Get a dog and you have a partner for your whole life.:p
 
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