Marriage, just don't

This is an amazing thread. Not surprising, but sobering to be reminded of how people think of marriage and relationships. I have a wonderful wife who is an invaluable asset to me in trading and in life. Why? Because I made her that way. When we got married, she was 20 and I was 24. She was still like soft clay, not yet hardened in the kiln. I knew what I wanted in a wife, and she knew what she wanted in a husband. She wanted a man to fill her insecurities. I wanted a woman without insecurities. Within 5 years, I won. She became strong, stable and an enormous asset. Now, being equally yoked together, there's almost nothing we can't accomplish.

The problem with many relationships in the West is leadership. If you don't know where you're going, you'll end up somewhere you never wanted to be. Men who believe the goal of a relationship is "to be together" become boring to their wives after marriage because "the goal has been accomplished" and there's nothing to do now but to remain together and have babies. This is an old story. Knight slays dragon to win princess. Marries her, gives up dragon slaying, becomes boring, princess unhappy.
Here's a better story. Knight sees big, insurmountable dragon. Knight sees princess. Knight knows he can inhabit the dragon's land if the dragon is slain but can't do it without a small army. Knight marries princess strengthens her and instills his values into her, has family, trains them as warriors, takes out dragon and expands kingdom. Princess happy and valued.

Marriage is goal = Boring
Marriage to accomplish goal = Exciting.

Women follow a man who is going somewhere. She will follow him to the ends of the earth and back because she perceives that she is valuable. My wife will never leave me because, where would she go? Where will she find something so fulfilling? As the last 30 pages of this thread indicate, nowhere.
 
Best wishes on future success and getting a woman with common sense, a rarity today. Keep her away from the girlfriends, who will poison her mind and tell her all sorts of lies how they wear the pants and they wouldn't put up with a man like you, all the while sowing the seeds of destruction in their own relationships.
 
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Best wishes on future success and getting a woman with common sense, a rarity today. Keep her away from the girlfriends, who will poison her mind and tell her all sorts of lies how they wear the pants and they wouldn't put up with a man like you, all the while laying the seeds of destruction in their own relationships.
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Well said Larson, ( J.Joseph) you keep thinking she will never leave you. Its when you least expect it, thats when some dude is breaking her back while you sit there and think she will never leave you or that she is not capable of doing something like that. Believe me, women are just as capable of the same things men are capable off. If anything, they are worse. A woman can cheat on you, and you will never even know it, while men can cheat, but we are horrible at hiding it, we always eventually get caught. But like Larson said, the friends are who you should watch out for. Once the friends get in their heads, things change pretty quick.
 
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Best wishes on future success and getting a woman with common sense, a rarity today. Keep her away from the girlfriends, who will poison her mind and tell her all sorts of lies how they wear the pants and they wouldn't put up with a man like you, all the while laying the seeds of destruction in their own relationships.
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Good advise Larson!

women are jealous of each other, so when their own little thing is going sour they want others also to have sourness in their lives, especially other women.

a good quote by joseph

"Marriage is goal = Boring
Marriage to accomplish goal = Exciting."

however i feel these days women have their own goals and the moment they see man not fulfilling those goals they want to seek another alternative. it used to be that kids keep the marriage together but not today, by the time they at 13-14 they want to do their own thing and give parents a feeling that kids do not really need them.

either way, it is all the money that matters. better to be single and stress free because stress can give rise to lots of health problems. change a gal every six months and do not invest much into her either emotionally or financially. invest into spirituality and good causes like animal care or care for old and handicapped. that will make you feel much much higher and enlightened than a naggy bitch asking for more and more.

:D :cool: :p
 
Good insight. Great insight actually..

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Good advise Larson!

women are jealous of each other, so when their own little thing is going sour they want others also to have sourness in their lives, especially other women.

a good quote by joseph

"Marriage is goal = Boring
Marriage to accomplish goal = Exciting."

however i feel these days women have their own goals and the moment they see man not fulfilling those goals they want to seek another alternative. it used to be that kids keep the marriage together but not today, by the time they at 13-14 they want to do their own thing and give parents a feeling that kids do not really need them.

either way, it is all the money that matters. better to be single and stress free because stress can give rise to lots of health problems. change a gal every six months and do not invest much into her either emotionally or financially. invest into spirituality and good causes like animal care or care for old and handicapped. that will make you feel much much higher and enlightened than a naggy bitch asking for more and more.

:D :cool: :p
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This thread reminded me of a true story.

An acquaintance of mine discovered his wife was cheating on him. He filed for divorce and arranged to have her served with papers at their home. Knowing the papers were on their way he ends up getting her in bead and doing her one last time. They literally just finished when the door bell rang.

Needless to say she was not happy. :D
 
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Marriage brings work to divorce attorneys. That is all. It adds to GDP.
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excellent point.
above certain level, gdp per head reflects the suffering of people, not enrichment.
 
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Well said Larson, ( J.Joseph) you keep thinking she will never leave you. Its when you least expect it, thats when some dude is breaking her back while you sit there and think she will never leave you or that she is not capable of doing something like that. Believe me, women are just as capable of the same things men are capable off. If anything, they are worse. A woman can cheat on you, and you will never even know it, while men can cheat, but we are horrible at hiding it, we always eventually get caught. But like Larson said, the friends are who you should watch out for. Once the friends get in their heads, things change pretty quick.
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Are you speaking from experience here? I'm sorry your grass is so brown that your girl always sees it as greener on the other side of the fence. If you kept your lawn more attractive even than the illusion that is in the neighbor's back yard, she wouldn't even want to look at it, let alone long for it.
 
WEDDING INVESTMENT

<Average 30 yrs>



&#163;.50,000 Marriage expenses.

&#163;.2,000 Monthly expenditure.

&#163;.500 Wife's monthly maintainence.

RETURNS:

<SEX>


First 5 years Weekly 2 Times.=520
Next 5 years Weekly 1 Time.=260
Next 10 years Once in 15 days.=240
Next 10 years Once in a month. =120


TOTAL COST


1140 times sex in 30 years for an estimated expenditure of a whooping :

&#163;950,000+
Opportunity cost on &#163;50,000spent on wedding at 4% for 30 years as
per current Post-tax Fixed Deposit Interest rate
&#163;163,000 - &#163;50,000=113,000


TOTAL COST = &#163;1,063,000



Kindly Notice:
A Man spends &#163;932 for each time he has Sex with his Wife....!!!



CONCLUSION:
Outsourcing is cheaper.
 
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