Well, maybe it was all meant to be, and could not have gone any other way. If you hadn't made those losses, you might never have discovered your edge in the market.
Big losses are always a good reminder how bad things can really get. They serve a purpose - to make you hesitate whenever tempted to take big risks.
Thanks for the perspective! Perhaps all of those suffering was necessary for me to learn how to trade better or developed my edge as you've said.
I just came back from an extended family vacation. My wife wanted to buy the internet package for the cruise. Initially, I balked at paying $9.99/day especially when we were supposed to be on a cruise afterall. But she said she likes to check work emails etc. So I bought it thinking I might trade a little on vacation.
And trade I did! A few minutes here and there and maybe 10-30mins in the morning and at night. Long story short I ended up making close to $3K! Cool huh? Once you know how to trade , money just comes. It got to the point where I made several hundred dollars just going from my cabin to the dock on the island. Several hundred dollars from my room to the breakfast dining area. LOL. A few hundred dollars while watching shows on the ship.
Now contrast this with 2015 when I was also on a family cruise and tried to trade and hold. I lost a lot. A lot. I was so clueless then.
If I had the opportunity to trade a solid 1 hour each morning then I would have been up huge. But there's something call family vacation and excusrions etc. So I could only do a tidbit of trades here and there.
The funny thing is had I held on to one of my trades til Friday I would have made multiples more. But since I'm more on an intraday trader I don't want to take that risk especially when I'm trading more size now.
Then on Friday(last day of our trip) I got sloppy and I had a resting order while I was at breakfast. I placed the resting order way out of the range thinking it will not get hit. But once the jobless report came out, the order was filled and it just broke down and ran so much lower. I had that mistake before. I should have cancelled all orders when I'm not in front of my laptop paying 100% attention to it. Much regret. But since it's part of my longer term hold strategy I'm ok though a bit nervous and holding to it.
Without that one mistake I would have been up close to $3K trading a few minutes here and there. I feel like I've made so much progress since 2015! But I need to cut out stupid careless mistakes.
The difference this time was I started trading with size. Before I was trading 1 lots with little to show for. Now that I when I recognize my setup I put in anywhere from 3-10 futures lots. Even on a small move it makes nice coin.
So my evolution is as follows:
1) countertrend and lose a lot
2) Hold onto losers
3) stop countertrending
4) trade with the trend on 1 lot
5) trade with the trend and countertrend on 1 lot
6) trade with the trend and countertrend on multiple lots but get out too soon instead of riding it all the way
7) Next step is I can trade with the trend and countertrend on multiple lots for the big ride. In one of my futures trades, I had been studying the chart and have a very good feel where it might go. I even told myself that this will be a runner and had a particular target in might but I still got scared and got out too soon because I was trading size. Once I can master holding for the big trends on decent number of lots then I can really say I finally moved up to the next level.
kaizen. Constant and never ending improvements.